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  • It's Not You

  • How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People
  • By: Ramani Durvasula
  • Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula
  • Length: 11 hrs and 31 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (150 ratings)

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Summary

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REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.

Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self

Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio

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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty

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Eye opening!

I’ve learnt a great deal from Dr Ramani in the last few years but this book has made me realise, I’m not alone and there’s hope out there.

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Easy to listen , great content

Amazing book! Very relatable and enjoyable. Dr Ramani offers great explanations and advice for handling different types of difficult relationships. I also liked learning about the topic of radical acceptance.

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Absolutely fantastic insight

This is amazingly well written and read. It's so clear and obviously written by a complete expert in the field. It's quality from a professional. The best insight into the subject, I'm so glad I read it. Makes other people spouting about narcissistic abuse etc look like amateurs!

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Insight and support

Amazing book to support survivor’s journey in understanding the path of healing within and out of a narcissistic relationship. Explores grief and the possibilities of rewriting our narrative as people in our own right. Well worth being read twice.

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Her determination to get the message across

An essential listen for anyone in an abusive relationship, you’ll learn what to do to regain your true identity

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Genius

A must read. This book is simply genius and dr Ramani never disappoints. Highly recommend.

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Recommended reading for everyone!

One of the only books tackling narcissism from the victims point of view. Very well written and easy to follow, full of practical and helpful advice.

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Everything. The accuracy is amazing!

It's changing my life. I still struggle to process all the information but I start to have hope that I can be better

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Insightful and worth the credits.

I bought this so I could better understand the impact of my friend's vulnerable narcissistic mother and why she kept entering narcissistic relationships. I now get. I'm going to buy her a copy of this for Xmas. Check out Dr.Ramani on Lisa Bilyeu's Women of Impact podcast, that's how I first found out about the book.

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Thank you Dr Ramani!

To everyone reading this book - please know that you are not alone. I hope that this book can start a movement….know your truth, know your worth, find yourself!

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