Let’s clear the struggles with successful communication.
In my eyes, communication is the most necessary yet complex art and science of human interaction.
I cannot emphasize enough how important communication is, it literally means life or death, not only centuries ago, but even today.
It is called "SPELL-ING" for a reason, because words can literally speak life or death into you and another person. If you think about it, words are actually the most powerful weapons in the world because they lead the way to future manifestations.
In this episode I want you to become more aware of how powerful and impactful your communication, even in the form of non-verbal communication (like ignoring, stonewalling, etc.) is on yourself and other people.
So here are my recommendations for powerful, uplifting and successful communication:
1.) Be & show up present, respectful and appreciative. If you're in a meeting or conversation, put down your laptop, turn off your phone. Focus on the task at hand, keep your head up, approach the person with warm, open eye contact and body language, sit down, listen, and engage purposefully to the participants, so that the meeting and the outcome will be the most effective and successful.
2.) Be intentional & clear with your message. How often do you really prepare for a meeting or conversation? What is the message I want to convey, what do I want to accomplish? Do I just want to inform, or does my message come with clear demands and tasks for the audience? If so, do I make my expectations clear to the other person? If not, this is the first step towards miscommunication and an unfruitful outcome.
3.) Prepare your message based on who you're talking to. More important than understanding our message is making sure the other person understands it. So be really intentional about crafting your words to meet the communication needs of the other person. How do you have to talk to the person in front of you to make sure they really get it? Are you talking to a man? A woman? An introvert, an extrovert...?
4.) Allow silence. Time to respond. Even though silence in a meeting or conversation can be the most awkward and uncomfortable experience, it is so powerful and necessary for successful communication. Because sometimes people really need that hot minute to digest and reflect on what you have said in order to come up with a valid response. Because if you bombard people and push them to the edge to get an answer, they will shut down in a fight, flight or freeze response and may blow up in your face with a reaction rather than a thoughtful response. This is called "snapping".
5.) Avoid the „perfection trap“ - judging others by an ideal version of a perfect person. We easily tend to impose our view of the world on others, and we become quick to judge and impatient, especially when people don't act according to our expectations. immediately. But before you judge them as retarded or unmotivated, ask yourself Did I really articulate my message and expectations in a way that they internalized? And even if they did, is there a possibility that they are not as equipped as I am or as I expect them to be? We often judge and compare people to an ideal version of a partner, co-worker, boss,... but is that fair? We're not perfect either, and we don't want to be compared to a perfect version when it comes to our actions and behaviors, so please practice a little more empathy, patience and compassion for yourself and others. In the end, it should be about understanding ourselves better in order to co-create more success.
If you have any requests, questions, or feedback, I will be happy to address them in live coaching or FAQ sessions within the next episodes.
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Music by: Ivo Deutschmann
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