Kat talks with Jay Alderton, a transformation coach, speaker and former British Army soldier, who cuts through the noise with brutal honesty and knowledge based on his personal experiences. They talk about the dangers of online connection replacing real human interaction, relationship longevity and personal growth. Jay delivers powerful truths about self-awareness, accountability, and the courage to do hard things and his unique perspective on why "knowing and not doing is the same as not knowing" will challenge you to examine your own life and excuses!
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Jay's experiences have taught him that true success comes from understanding the difference between failing and failure. Failing is just part of the learning process.
- Through his years of experience in the fitness and social media industry, Jay has observed how modern technology creates a false sense of connection. We need real human interaction and he creates this himself by challenging his comfort zone in various situations.
- Jay has found that public accountability is crucial for achieving goals. When he tells others about his intentions, he's more likely to follow through because he values being seen as reliable and trustworthy.
- Environment shapes performance. One thing you can do for your environment is consider your own digital connections through actions like auditing your Whatsapp conversations and social media feeds to ensure they support growth rather than negativity.
- There is power in focusing on one "keystone habit." which can often create a cascade of good habits and success.
- Self-awareness and brutal honesty are essential. Jay challenges his clients for their own benefit.
- Having been with his wife since age 13, Jay understands that relationships require constant communication and adaptation.
- Based on his observations of both clients and his own journey, Jay recognises how people can become comfortable in negativity, creating toxic cycles of complaining without action.
BEST MOMENTS
“You can't fail if you don't give up.“
"Knowing and not doing is the same as not knowing. So you don't know something if you're not doing it, that's the reality. So don't fool yourself that you are, that you know something."
"My granddad taught me to leave things better than when you found them... if every human being left people and things a little bit better than when they found them, the world would be a much better place."
"We are more attracted to negativity and drama than we are to positivity and kindness”.
"Environment dictates performance... Being around other people who are focused on growth and focused on improvement, you end up being that person who's focused on growth and focused on improvement."
ABOUT THE GUEST
Jay Alderton
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hard-Stuff-Easy-Life-Principles/dp/0241682673
ABOUT THE HOST
Kat started her career as a teacher, before moving into Tech where she worked in different executive roles within teaching and consulting working across the globe, both in the public and private sector. Despite appearing 'successful' on the outside, she paid a heavy ‘life’ price. In 2016, her whole world collapsed. The reason? The compound effect of years of unhealthy and toxic habits that destroyed her health, relationship and career. She suffered a severe breakdown and lost everything. In the middle of this she got headhunted for her first CEO role. She rebuilt herself by changing just one small habit, and built a series of positive habits which has transformed her professional and personal performance, resulting in becoming the healthiest and happiest version of herself.
She is a positive habits international keynote speaker and teacher, giving talks and delivering high impact programmes to organisations across the globe.
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