In this episode, Dr. Twitchell discusses the important strategy of approaching anxiety instead of avoiding it. Highlighting insights from the book 'The Upside of Your Dark Side,' Dr. Twitchell explains how modern comfort has increased our sensitivity to discomfort, and how avoidance can amplify anxiety. She proposes a three-step strategy to approach anxiety: 1) Finding a long-term purpose that prioritizes enduring values over short-term comfort, 2) Articulating emotions in detail to defuse them, and 3) Gradually exposing oneself to anxiety triggers to make them familiar and reduce their impact. Dr. Twitchell emphasizes that managing anxiety effectively requires intentional approaching rather than avoidance.


[00:00:00] - Introduction and Overview
[00:00:53] - The Paradox of Comfort and Anxiety
[00:02:05] - The Importance of Approaching Anxiety
[00:05:10] - Steps to Approach Anxiety: Finding Your Why
[00:12:28] - Steps to Approach Anxiety: Describing Your Emotions
[00:18:36] - Steps to Approach Anxiety: Exposure and Familiarity
[00:23:58] - Conclusion and Summary


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In this episode, Dr. Twitchell discusses the intricacies of goal setting and its relationship with anxiety. Drawing upon Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's flow theory, Dr. Twitchell explores how creating the right types of goals can help achieve a state of inner harmony and reduce anxiety. She emphasizes the importance of goals that enhance autonomy and create inner order, distinguishing between genetic and cultural programming versus conscious goal setting. Dr. Twitchell also shares personal anecdotes and strategies to balance goal demands with available resources, ensuring they are neither too hard nor too easy, thus facilitating a flow state. Practical advice on adjusting goals to fit within one's resources and focusing on process-oriented goals is provided to help listeners cultivate a satisfying and harmonious relationship with their goals.


[00:00:00] - Introduction and New Year Greetings
[00:00:36] - Understanding Anxiety and Goals
[00:01:23] - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's Flow Theory
[00:02:51] - The Importance of Autonomy in Goal Setting
[00:05:25] - Genetic Programming and Autonomy
[00:09:31] - Cultural Influence on Goals
[00:14:12] - Creating Goals that Reduce Anxiety
[00:18:43] - Personal Experiences and Practical Tips
[00:25:16] - Conclusion and Final Thoughts


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Join Dr. Twitchell in this New Year's episode as she discusses the importance of optimism and a challenge mindset in predicting and coping with future stressors. Dr. Twitchell explains how our appraisals and predictions shape our emotional and physiological responses, as well as our ability to solve problems and collaborate with others. Learn about the differences between threat and challenge mindsets, and practical ways to cultivate a more optimistic outlook for the coming year.

00:00 Introduction and New Year's Greetings
00:42 Predicting the Future and Its Impact
01:43 The Role of Emotions in Future Predictions
05:17 Challenge vs. Threat Mindsets
06:38 Three Insights on How the Challenge Mindset Helps Us Find Solutions to Problems
13:14 Cultivating a Challenge Mindset
18:13 Conclusion and New Year's Challenge


For full show notes, including resources mentioned, go to:
www.calmyourcaveman.com