• How Do I Surrender Control and Be a Good Steward: Lessons from Erin's Pregnancy Journey
    Mar 14 2025

    Host Heather Creekmore is joined by Erin Todd from Intuitive Eating for Christian Women and Ashley Smith from the HA Society to explore the nuance between surrendering control and exercising stewardship. The discussion kicks off with Erin sharing her journey of conception at age 41, emphasizing the importance of faith and timing. Despite being told by doctors that she had a one percent chance of conceiving, Erin's story highlights the power of trusting in God's plan and timing, while she worked with Ashley to help support her body with what it needed to get pregnant.

    Ashley delves into the nuances of AMH levels (Anti-Mullerian Hormone--the measure of the number of a woman's eggs that remain) and fertility, explaining the complexities and variances that are often overlooked in conventional fertility treatments like IVF. She underscores the significance of understanding one's body and situation, instead of making quick assumptions based on initial evaluations from fertility doctors.

    But this conversation isn't just for women who are looking to get pregnant. The conversation goes deeper and shifts to the distinction between control and stewardship. Ashley explains that true stewardship involves asking God for guidance rather than bowing to fear or societal pressures. This notion is reflected in Erin's personal challenges, including a series of stressful events that led her to a place of surrender and faith in God's timeline for her family.

    The trio discusses relinquishing control in various aspects of life, whether it be our bodies, children, or life's unexpected events, encouraging listeners to trust in God's sovereignty and goodness. Both Erin and Ashley provide insight into the delicate balancing act of living in faith without attaching oneself to specific outcomes, whether that's achieving pregnancy or any other life goal.

    Overall, the episode offers hope and encouragement for those struggling with the desire for control, particularly in the context of fertility and motherhood, and invites listeners to lean on their faith and the concept of stewardship.

    Listen to other interviews with Erin Todd here: https://omny.fm/shows/compared-to-who/real-women-real-hope-erin-todd-on-freedom-from-unh

    https://omny.fm/shows/compared-to-who/all-roads-lead-to-intuitive-eating-what-we-learned

    Listen to other interviews with Ashley Smith here: https://omny.fm/shows/compared-to-who/hormones-ha-infertility-early-menopause-and-body-i

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    https://omny.fm/shows/compared-to-who/agreeing-with-the-lord-about-how-he-made-us-ashley

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    29 mins
  • How Erin Got Pregnant at 40 after Eating Disorder and Food Issues
    Mar 11 2025

    Today, Heather chats with Erin Todd from the Intuitive Eating for Christian Women podcast and Ashley Smith of the HA Society about how Ashley helped Erin get pregnant after 40. Even if you aren't looking to get pregnant, the trio talks about the beauty of how our bodies were made to signal and heal. They talk about perimenopause and the phenomenon of women getting diagnosed with early perimenopause. They discuss period loss, infertility, and Erin's personal story of working with Ashley to change the way she supported her body nutritionally in order to conceive. Here's what you can expect in today's show:

    • Helpful information if you've lost your period or had menstrual irregularity.
    • How Erin recognized that her intuitive eating had become based in habit and comfort.
    • What to do if your doctor's told you you are in early menopause or peri-menopause.
    • Erin's amazing story of working with Ashley, paying attention to nutrients, and getting pregnant.
    • How scary it was for Erin to have to pay attention to food again and log food, and how that can be a trigger.

    Learn more about Intuitive Eating for Christian Women here: https://intuitiveeatingforchristianwomen.com

    Learn more about Ashley Smith and the HA Society here: https://www.thehasociety.com/

    Join the 40-Day Journey here: https://www.improvebodyimage.com/40-day-challenge

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    33 mins
  • Body Image Issues During and After Pregnancy: Group Chat Part 2
    Mar 7 2025

    Today Heather and her team continue their group chat discussion about all things pregnancy and body image. They share how they handled weight changes during pregnancy, the pressure they felt to "bounce back," and how they handled frustrations around things not going as planned with the birth, breastfeeding, or even the health of the baby. From gestational diabetes to post-partum depression to trying to "win" at being the "hot mom" - the team covers it all in today's fun and informative second half of the group chat. If you've felt pressure to bounce back (even a decade after the baby was born), or if you've struggled with how you felt during or after pregnancy, this episode will encourage your heart.

    Ready to heal your body image issues? Pregnant and new moms are welcomed to join the 40-Day Journey! Come as you are, join us on zoom, with spit up in your hair and baby on your lap. All are welcomed. Learn more at: https://www.improvebodyimage.com just check the 40-Day Journey tab. It will encourage you! (P.S. Replays are always available if you miss a week because baby just wouldn't nap!) Sessions run each quarter. Next session begins March 10.

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    44 mins
  • Weight Gain and Pregnancy Body Image Frustrations: Group Chat Part 1
    Mar 4 2025

    How was your body image when you were pregnant? For some, it's freedom. For others, it's terrifying. Today, the Compared to Who? team: Heather, Tara, Presli, Jackie, and Rachel have a group chat about how they felt during pregnancy. They talk about their approaches to gaining weight, trying to do everything "right" by the doctors, the pressures they felt around how much weight to gain (or not gain), and everything in between. This conversation is real talk around the struggles, trials, and frustrations of being pregnant when you have body image issues or when you struggle with food, disordered eating, or have an eating disorder. For some women, body image issues start at pregnancy. No matter where you're at on your journey to heal your body image (how you feel and think about your body), this episode will encourage you. Both Heather and Tara share how their both more than a decade post-partum, but how healing it felt just to go back and think about these issues and what they walked through.

    Learn more about Compared to Who? or join the 40-Day Journey by visiting: www.improvebodyimage.com

    Other episodes mentioned today:

    What is Health (discussion of BMI chart origins): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ReC4AtVQu2s

    Pregnancy and Body Image: https://comparedtowho.me/body-image-and-pregnancy/

    Blog post on the topic: https://comparedtowho.me/coveting-my-neighbors-belly-pregnancy-and-body-image-series/

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    33 mins
  • Finding Delight, Honor, and Growth in Marriage Featuring Dr. Dan Allender
    Feb 28 2025

    In part 2 of this interview with Dr. Dan Allender, Heather and Dan delve into what it truly means to experience a deeper, more fulfilling marriage. Dr. Allender shared profound insights into how our past plays a crucial role in shaping our present and how this understanding can guide us toward redemption and healing in our relationships.

    Here are themes for our conversation today:

    • Growth in Marriage: True growth in marriage is not just about comfort and convenience. It involves addressing past traumas and engaging with each other's differences to heal and understand the work of the spirit in our lives.

    • The Role of Desire: Desire in a marriage is never equal, and understanding this difference can lead to greater curiosity and compassion rather than conflict. It's about exploring each other's hearts and seeking out redemption together.

    • The Intersection of Shame and Delight: Our deepest areas of shame are often where we can find the most profound delight, especially in the context of marriage. Dr. Allender emphasized the importance of inviting kindness into our hearts to truly reflect this delight onto our spouses.

    Stay til the very end when Dr. Allender explains why shame and food are as interconnected as shame and sex!

    Learn more about Dr. Dan Allender and his new book: Deep-Rooted Marriage. (Amazon affiliate link)

    Learn more about Compared to Who? or join the next 40-Day Journey to Body Image Freedom here: https://www.improvebodyimage.com

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    27 mins
  • What Parts of Your Past Affect Your Marriage? Featuring Dr. Dan Allender
    Feb 25 2025

    Today Heather Creekmore interviews an author, therapist, and pioneer in the trauma and abuse world, Dr. Dan Allender. As we wrap up our month-long series on marriage, today Heather and Dr. Allender explore how our past traumas impact our marriage, how our hurts from our family of origin may have actually impacted who we chose to marry, and how we can help our spouses heal and name their own woundings so that together we can have more than just a "good marriage," we instead can grow together as a couple who is able to honor and delight in each other.

    🔹 Understanding Trauma in Marriage Relationships: Dr. Allender talks about how both capital T and small t traumas can shape our behaviors and even our choice of a marriage partner. Many of us aren't aware of these subtle influences rooted deep in past experiences.

    🔹 Transformational Stories: A personal story shared by Dr. Allender highlights how pivotal moments in marriage, filled with exposure and invitation, can lead to profound transformation and healing.

    🔹 The Promise of Deep Connection: Through challenges and growth, marriage offers an opportunity for unparalleled joy and awe, as Dr. Allender describes his journey of delight and honor in his relationship with his wife.

    Come back for part 2 of this interview on Friday.

    Learn more about Dr. Dan Allender and his new book: Deep-Rooted Marriage here. (Amazon affiliate link)

    Learn more about Compared to Who? or join the next 40-Day Journey to Body Image Freedom here: https://www.improvebodyimage.com

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    30 mins
  • My Christian Husband Looks at Porn: How Do We Heal?
    Feb 21 2025

    Today Heather continues her conversation with Rosie Makinney from Fight for Love Ministries (https://www.fightforloveministries.org) about lust and pornography issues and how they affect marriages and a woman's body image issues.

    In today's episode, Heather and Rosie talk about control issues, the idol of sex, and what to do if you're dating someone who has confessed to a problem with pornography.

    They also talk about what to do if you're in that shattered place of just finding out (or re-finding out) that your man is looking at pornography of any kind.

    There is great hope and help for your marriage and your body image, even if a porn issue is part of your story. Visit Fight For Love if you need more help or support in navigating this difficult issues.

    Listen to Heather's first interview with Rosie where she shares her story here: https://omny.fm/shows/compared-to-who/what-to-do-when-your-husband-is-looking-at-porn

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    33 mins
  • Help! Why Does My Christian Husband Look at Porn?
    Feb 18 2025

    Rosie Makinney of Fight For Love Ministries joins Heather today for a candid conversation about lust and pornography issues and how they affect marriages and a woman's body image issues. If you've ever believed that your husband would stop looking (or would have never looked) at porn if only you looked better, today you'll hear this lie dispelled with science and biblical truth. Rosie has helped thousands of women come to a better understanding of their man's lust problems, and she'll encourage you if you've ever felt gaslighted or blamed for his struggles.

    This is part one of a two part conversation.

    Listen to Heather's first interview with Rosie where she shares her story here: https://omny.fm/shows/compared-to-who/what-to-do-when-your-husband-is-looking-at-porn

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    28 mins