• Ep #131 The Failure Feedback Loop: How to Parent Smarter, Not Stricter
    Mar 13 2025

    In this juicy episode, I am spilling ALL the tea about why failure isn't just normal—it's your secret parenting superpower! 💪

    Think about it: Michael Jordan missed 9,000+ shots and Ed Sheeran was once a super awkward teen musician (he showed the receipts and everything!). Their "secret"? They didn't avoid failure—they COLLECTED it like badges of honor!

    I'm breaking down my game-changing "Five E's" formula that transforms those epic parenting face-plants into golden growth opportunities: • Energy (showing up 100%) • Effort (going all-in) • Ending power (sticking through the hard stuff) • Evaluation (learning from every no) • Emotional presence (bringing your whole self)

    And I share the absolutely LIFE-CHANGING advice I gave my son while he's out there getting doors slammed in his face selling pest control. Turns out, every "no" is just collecting evidence that you're getting closer to your "yes"! (Mind = blown, right?!)

    So next time your toddler throws spaghetti across the room or your teen gives you The Eye Roll™, don't beat yourself up! You're not failing at parenting—you're actually building your parenting muscles through productive failure.

    Ready to start collecting productive failures? I dare you to track 100 this month! (And yes, small ones totally count!)

    Let's ditch the perfectionist thinking and get EXCITED about our fails, friend. Because that's where the magic happens! ✨


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  • Ep #130 The Awareness, Allowing, Wisdom Process
    Mar 10 2025

    Hey there, amazing parents!!! Today's episode is ALL about the transformative power of the awareness, allowing, and wisdom process.

    I'm walking you through my signature STEAR and PEACE processes that have helped thousands of parents shift from correction-based to connection-based parenting. It's not about being perfect—it's about being present and compassionate with yourself first.

    Episode Highlights:

    • STEAR Recap: How our thoughts about situations create our emotions, actions, and ultimately our results
    • The Power of Awareness: Why looking at your thoughts is the essential first step to changing anything in your life
    • The Art of Allowing: Why most of us rush to change our thoughts before we've fully allowed and processed our emotions
    • Wisdom-Based Change: How to make changes from a place of peace rather than panic
    • The Compassionate Witness: Becoming the observer of your thoughts instead of being identified with them

    Remember, lovelies: you can't skip the ALLOW step! That's where all the magic happens. And yes, it's the hardest part because it means FEELING those uncomfortable emotions. But trust me—I've been there, done that, got the T-shirt—it's worth it.

    Sending you so much love and support on your parenting journey! ✨

    xoAndee

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  • Ep #129 Parenting: The Job Where Everyone Thinks You're Doing It Wrong
    Mar 6 2025

    Let's get real for a hot second—ever feel like parenting is just one giant tug-of-war? (And somehow you're ALWAYS the one about to face-plant into the mud puddle, am I right?!)

    In today's episode, I'm diving into my "Dream Relationship Strategy" – the exact framework I've used to transform my relationships with my kids (including my son who's turning 24 this year—which is WILD because I'm pretty sure I'm still 24 myself! 🤪).

    What You'll Learn:

    • Why your brain is literally the command center of your parenting (yes, everything starts RIGHT there!)
    • How those sneaky thoughts like "nothing will ever get better" are totally sabotaging your connection with your kids
    • The mind-blowing reframe that turns "my kid is SO frustrating" into "my child is doing the hard work of growing up" (game-changer alert! 🚨)
    • Why Indigenous cultures have been nailing this whole parenting thing while many of us are still struggling with outdated strategies

    My Favorite Quotes From This Episode:

    "All of those external tools that I depended on for years, it was better for me to parent without them."

    "My child is doing the hard work of growing up. I'm honored to be here to help."

    "Connection teaches more than consequences."

    Your Homework Assignment (because growth doesn't happen by accident!):

    1. Identify one sticky situation where your relationship feels strained
    2. Write down ALL your thoughts about it (yes, even the judgmental ones we all have!)
    3. Thank your nervous system for trying to protect you (because even those triggered reactions are trying to help!)
    4. Create new, empowering thoughts to replace the draining ones
    5. Practice visualizing yourself believing these new thoughts

    Remember: You're not just studying for a test here—you're rehearsing for the role of a lifetime as the parent your kids actually WANT in their corner!

    Want to become the parent your kids call when they're 25 with GOOD news, not just when their car breaks down? This episode is your roadmap!

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  • Ep #128 Why 'BEING' Trumps 'Doing' in Parenting (And Most Parents Get This Backwards)
    Mar 3 2025

    So there I was, wide awake at 5:15 AM in FREAKING NEW ZEALAND (yes, we're still traveling—more on that later!) with this message practically BURSTING out of me. My body was like, "Andee, get up RIGHT NOW and talk to your people!" So here I am, messy bun and all, coming in hot with some truth bombs about parenting that literally changed my entire life.


    The Big Juicy Secret I Can't Keep Anymore:

    Who you're BEING matters waaaaay more than what you're DOING as a parent.

    Think about it—you could say "time to wake up" with the exact same words but completely different energy:

    • Option A: Frazzled, irritated, rushing (we've ALL been there)
    • Option B: Grounded, present, compassionate

    Same words, totally different result! And guess what? Your kids have these amazing things called mirror neurons that pick up your emotional vibe INSTANTLY. They're like little emotional WiFi receivers! 📡


    Real Talk Moment:

    Remember when I was first shifting my parenting and thinking, "Why didn't that work? I said the words in a calm voice!" Meanwhile, I was RAGING inside but kept my tone even. Newsflash: the emotions behind our words don't lie, people!


    The Ultimate Parenting Glow-Up:

    I'm spilling all my favorite insights from this amazing book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin:

    1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves (but they DO feel their feelings—big difference!)
    2. They don't give their power away (your teenager's eye roll doesn't control your mood, I promise!)
    3. They don't shy away from change (hello, adapting to each new stage of childhood!)

    ...and there's so much more goodness in the episode!


    The Story That Still Makes Me Tear Up:

    So picture little Andee, maybe 10 years old, in our giant brown 80s Suburban (oldest of SEVEN kids, remember?). I accidentally stepped right into one of the homemade pies my mom had made for the school fall festival. 🥧👟

    I was MORTIFIED, waiting for the judgment hammer to fall. But my amazing mom just looked at me and said, "It's fine, it's totally fine," and drove on minus one pie. No big deal.

    THAT, my friends, is someone whose BEING and DOING are perfectly aligned. (Thanks, Mom! 💕)


    Your Homework (Because I Care):

    Stop asking "What do I DO when my kid does XYZ?" and start asking "Who do I want to BE when my kid does XYZ?"

    Game. Changer.

    Your kids don't need perfect—they need YOU in all your beautiful, messy, authentic glory. (And honestly? That's way more interesting anyway!)

    Sending buckets of love from New Zealand (only a week and a half left—we're soaking up every second!),

    Andee 💫

    P.S. If you feel like you're failing sometimes, welcome to the club! The people who succeed aren't the ones who never fail—they're the ones who refuse to let failure be the end of their story. Keep going!

    P.P.S. I'm totally planning a whole episode on the journey of this trip and how it relates to parenting. Stay tuned! 🌏✈️

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  • Ep #127 Relationships 2.0: Why Being Right is Overrated
    Feb 27 2025

    Okay, can we talk about something that's been LIVING in my brain lately? You know that feeling when you're absolutely POSITIVE you need to win an argument with your kiddo... and then suddenly realize that winning might actually be losing? Yeah, THAT. 🤯

    In today's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that's about to change your whole parenting game: what if I told you that being right isn't actually the goal? (I know, I know - stay with me here!)

    Here's what we're unpacking together:

    🎯 The mind-blowing truth about relationships (spoiler alert: they're not what you think!)
    ✨ Why your relationship with your child isn't actually about their behavior (say what now?)
    🧠 The secret sauce to difficult conversations that'll make you feel like a connection ninja
    💫 My P.E.A.C.E. method that's about to become your new best friend
    🔮 A late-night revelation that changed everything (because apparently, wisdom hits different at 2 AM!)

    Picture this: You're in the middle of a heated moment with your child CEO (aka your strong-willed child), and instead of trying to prove your point, you've got this magical new way of handling things that actually WORKS. Sounds dreamy, right? That's exactly what we're diving into!

    Plus, I'm sharing my step-by-step guide to:
    - Dropping the right/wrong game (because honestly, who needs that drama?)
    - Listening like a fascinated scientist (way more fun than it sounds!)
    - Using facts as your secret weapon (they're like relationship Switzerland - totally neutral!)
    - Turning fear into your superpower (plot twist you didn't see coming!)

    Here's the thing, beautiful humans: The moment I stopped trying to win at parenting was the moment everything started shifting. And I mean EVERYTHING.

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    41 mins
  • Ep #126 The Hard Day Hypothesis
    Feb 24 2025

    Today's episode is basically what happened when years of parenting, and one very persistent thought about "hard days" collided into what might be the most important perspective shift I've ever had. Grab your favorite drink and let's dive into this game-changing conversation! 🌟

    In this episode, I'm diving deep into:

    • Why the most successful parents (and people) are actually the ones most willing to feel negative emotions (mind-blown yet?)
    • The shocking revelation about why there's actually no such thing as a "hard day" (stick with me on this one!)
    • My confession about writing my book and why it took THREE WHOLE YEARS (grammar is still not my bestie, y'all)
    • A totally new way to think about challenges that will revolutionize your parenting journey

    Real talk: I share some stories about my own journey, including that time I thought going to the store with one kid was THE HARDEST THING EVER (oh, sweet past Andee... just wait until you have six! 😂).

    My absolute favorite nugget from this episode? "The most successful people are the ones who are most willing to feel negative emotions." Let that sink in for a minute. 🤯

    Whether you're currently:

    • Dealing with a Sharpie artist who decided your walls needed "updating"
    • Wondering if your teenager's eye-rolling could qualify as an Olympic sport
    • Just trying to figure out why adulting feels so... adult-y

    This episode is your permission slip to see it all differently. Because maybe, just maybe, those "hard" days are actually just level-up opportunities in disguise!

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  • Ep #125 The Off-Track Behavior Masterclass: Because Timeouts Aren't Working and Oreos Aren't a Solution
    Feb 20 2025

    If you've ever found yourself googling "Is it normal for kids to fight 37 times before noon?" or "How to stop yelling when everything is LITERALLY ON FIRE" – I just dropped the survival guide we've all been desperately needing with this episode!


    What I'm Sharing In This Episode

    In this workshop (which was SO good I just HAD to share it on the podcast!), I'm walking you through:

    🧠 The Off-Track Behavior Truth: I'm redefining what's actually happening when kids fight, ignore you, or melt down (hint: it's not them being jerks on purpose, I promise!)

    😤 The Thought-Feeling-Action Chain: Why you go from "they're fighting again" to completely losing it in 2.5 seconds (and how to interrupt that pattern!)

    🗺️ Your Personal Recipe Card: My step-by-step method for creating YOUR personalized emergency plan for those moments when you want to scream into a pillow.

    The Connection Secret: How I learned to stay emotionally connected when every fiber of my being wanted to run away or shut down


    My Favorite Ah-Ha Moments To Listen For:

    "Off track behavior is when the kids are not able to stay within the boundaries we've established together. It's an indicator that the kids are struggling and need help."

    (This definition CHANGED MY LIFE, y'all. I used to think my kids were just being difficult on purpose!)

    "Your thoughts about them will be dependent on your expectations of them and how well they meet those expectations."

    (Ouch. Fifteen years ago this one hit me right in the parenting feels. But once I got it? GAME. CHANGER.)


    The Too-Exhausted-To-Listen-To-It-All Version:

    1. Your kids' behavior = information about what's happening inside them (not a personal attack on you!)
    2. Your thoughts create your reactions (and you can actually choose different thoughts!)
    3. Write down your personal off-track recipe on an actual card so your brain doesn't short-circuit next time
    4. Be the calm you want to see (even if you have to fake it till you make it at first!)
    5. Be patient with yourself because this parenting gig is HARD and we're all figuring it out as we go

    xoxoAndee ❤️❤️

    P.P.S. In this episode, I talk about how I had to drive through a BLIZZARD to deliver this workshop. That's how important I think this stuff is. So if you're struggling, please know you're not alone – and there's a way through! (And maybe leave a review if this episode was helpful. It makes my day AND helps other parents find us!)

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  • Ep #124 Going All In: Why Half-Hearted Parenting is Like Training for the Olympics in Flip-Flops
    Feb 17 2025

    We're diving DEEP into what it really means to go all in - not just in parenting, but in life. And before you think "Oh great, another episode about trying harder" (I see you, I hear you), this is actually about something completely different.

    Remember Eddie the Eagle? That gloriously awkward British ski-jumper who showed up at the Olympics having barely ski jumped before (compared to the other competitors)? His story completely blew my mind, and it's going to change how you think about commitment forever. Trust me on this one.

    In this episode, I'm sharing:

    • Why resilience isn't actually a personality trait (thank goodness, right?)
    • The real reason your "failures" might actually be your biggest wins
    • My slightly unhinged but totally effective $10,000 commitment challenge
    • The Mario Kart theory of parenting (yes, this is a thing, and yes, it's going to make so much sense)

    Plus, I'm getting super real about my own journey - including that moment I looked at my 2023 photos and had a total "oh honey" moment about my fitness journey. Because sometimes the best way to learn about commitment is to face-plant a few times along the way (metaphorically speaking... mostly).

    And for my League peeps - whether you're in Pivot or Mastery - you're going to love how this ties into everything we've been working on. And if you're not in League yet... well, let's just say March's Pivot 5.0 is looking pretty tempting right now! 😉

    So grab yourself something to drink (water with electrolytes is my go to these days), find a quiet spot, and let's talk about why a "sort of commitment" never won an Olympic medal - and what that means for all of us.

    Can't wait to hear what hits home for you!

    With love from the mountains, Andee

    P.S. If you've ever felt like you're not doing enough, not getting it right, or just generally fumbling through this whole parenting thing - this episode is especially for you. Because sometimes the shortest jump in Olympic history can actually be your biggest win. (Intrigued? Just wait - it's going to make you tear up a little. It did me!)

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    51 mins