177 There are three major things I learned from my first marriage ending in divorce that have allowed me to create an amazing fulfilling marriage with my second husband.

As I've worked with hundreds of other highly sensitive women, I've noticed the struggles I had in my first marriage echo so many of the struggles these other HSP women have in theirs.

So it makes sense what worked for me will also help you have a much more fulfilling marriage!

AND the unhappiness, lack of fulfillment, and pain we tend to feel in our relationships as sensitive women is often sourced in a few challenges that are an innate part of high sensitivity.

Even though this trait is amazing, and a true gift for you and the lucky people who get to have you in their lives, high sensitivity can come with a shadow side, especially when it comes to specific aspects of intimate relationships.

Listen in to this episode for a reminder of how your sensitivity can be such a strength when it comes to intimate partnerships (it never hurts to hear a reminder, right?!), and also hear how the same qualities ( which have to do with our conscientiousness and high standards) can sometimes end up undermining the strength of the relationship–until you implement the 3 tips I share.

Not only do I share quite a bit about my first marriage to help illustrate my advice, so it's fun to listen to, but the 3 tips I share are simple. Just listening to this episode can bring you some real "ahas" and lead to some great change in your marriage or committed relationship. Happy New Year!

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176 When things are feeling less connected, loving and supportive in your relationship than you want them to as a highly sensitive person, there is an excellent chance a lot of it is coming from chronic dysregulation and emotional overload. In other words, stress.

As Hsps, it is hard to NOT feel overstimulated or stressed in our modern lives. I’ve recently shared a fair amount about how this leads to nervous system and emotional dysregulation. Which is, honestly, terrible for relationship health!

But it is a lot more than the outer world that creates this dysregulation and stress. In this episode I dive into the huge thing that tends to create this internal overstimulation– in other words, how we dysregulate ourselves from the inside out!

It's important to SEE this, and how you do it. In this episode I will give you a great starting place.

I also share how to stop this internal dysregulation so you can feel peaceful, and be able to give and receive the deepest love, and have the best marriage.

I honestly think, without understanding what I share in this episode, it will be 1000 times harder to be alive and to be married as a sensitive person (it sure was for me!). So tune in to this essential episode.

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175 Ever felt that stinging (or punch-in-the-gut) feeling when your partner says or does something hurtful? Or maybe it’s something he doesn't do that leads to you feeling like he just doesn’t care. Like you don’t matter. Like you aren’t loved.

Normal for everyone, for highly sensitive women and deep-feeling women, this is extra oh-so-common.

It may very well be true that your partner could be more skillful in his interactions with you. At the same time, so much of the hurt you feel in these moments comes from taking things personally. (Even if you may not think you do so, listen in to find out for real, because it is a human brain thing, and most people do it to some degree.)

And you can put an end to that NOW.

And you want to. Because taking things personally doesn't just hurt–it costs us big time in our intimate relationships, leading to all sorts of AVOIDABLE pain. . . and diminishment of affection and connection.

I, too, used to take all sorts of things personally, and it hurt me and my marriage. I spent years learning how to put an end to that unnecessary pain, and replace it with the closeness, ease and love I want between my husband and I. I want that for you to.

As you learn to not take things so personally, it will free you up to have way more of the support, connection and loving intimacy you want with your partner.

Listen in to this updated and re-release essential episode, where I dive into 3 big keys to stop taking things so personally so you can feel less hurt and more love everyday of your life.

And don't miss the announcement about the short course you can take to make your habit of taking things personally a thing of the past for you.

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