The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconnection. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack the idea of the "courtroom" in relationships, where couples focus on proving who's right instead of understanding each other's emotions. They discuss how this leads to loneliness, especially in areas like sex, and share tools to shift from battling over facts to building deeper emotional connection. Whether it's about resolving conflict or dealing with sexual loneliness, you’ll be offered a path to transforming your relationship.

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Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Opening the Courtroom: How Conflicts Become Trials in Marriage
• 00:01:21 - Marriage as a Battlefield: The Story Behind the Courtroom Mentality
• 00:03:05 - The Burden of Being Right: When Winning Means Losing
• 00:04:21 - Logistics vs. Emotions: The Trap of Disconnected Arguments
• 00:09:45 - The High Cost of Winning: How Arguments Lead to Disconnection
• 00:14:36 - Exhaustion and Innocence: Why Proving Your Case Drains You
• 00:21:36 - The Unseen Toll: Navigating Emotional Chaos
• 00:22:20 - Sexual Loneliness Unveiled: A Pain Often Ignored
• 00:23:05 - Connection Through Conversation: How Words Heal
• 00:24:54 - Validation’s Power: The Key to Emotional Harmony
• 00:26:37 - Conflict as Connection: Transformative Approaches
• 00:27:40 - Practical Tools for Lasting Emotional Intimacy
• 00:29:32 - Reflecting on Past Wounds: Why Emotional Tools Matter
• 00:33:19 - Emotional Mastery: Building the Right Relationship Toolkit
• 00:37:15 - Healing Old Wounds: How Emotional Tools Transform Relationships
• 00:41:48 - Encouragement & Wrap-Up: Moving Forward with Connection