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Summary: In this episode, Julie Sedenko and relationship expert Leslie Vernick discuss how to recognize and address destructive relationships. Leslie highlights five key signs of a destructive relationship and offers advice on navigating these challenging situations.

1. Identifying Red Flags in Marriage

   • Explanation of common red flags that may indicate a relationship is becoming destructive.

2. Recognizing Patterns of Destructive Behavior

   • Importance of identifying repeat patterns in behavior that are harmful.
   • Differentiation between occasional mistakes and ongoing destructive patterns.

3. Sign One: Feeling Controlled

   • Indicators of control and manipulation in a relationship.
   • Psychological and emotional impact of being controlled.

4. Sign Two: Feeling Afraid

   • Understanding fear in non-physically abusive relationships.
   • Common fears and their effects on the dynamics of a relationship.

5. Sign Three: Feeling Confused

   • The role of gaslighting in causing confusion.
   • Strategies for regaining clarity and validating one’s own reality.

6. Sign Four: Feeling Objectified

   • Recognizing when one is being treated as an object rather than a partner.
   • The emotional toll of objectification.

7. Sign Five: Deception

   • Impact of chronic deception on trust and safety in a relationship.
   • Recognizing the signs of deceit and its consequences.

8. Navigating Deceptive and Manipulative Behavior

   • Dealing with duplicity and manipulation in relationships.
   • Strategies for protecting oneself and maintaining sanity.

9. Taking Control of Your Happiness

   • Personal anecdotes and empowerment stories.
   • Importance of self-celebration and taking charge of one’s own well-being.

10. Recognizing Destructive Patterns and Seeking Safety

    • Identifying patterns and understanding their frequency and intensity.
    • Assessing personal boundaries and safety measures.