Ruby and Meg chat to actor, comedian and writer Ash Self (best known for playing Felix in Heartstopper), who debunks the myth that disabled people either can’t have sex or don’t want to.

We hear about sex education (or lack of it) in the hospital youth ward where Ash spent some time and how he feels people expect to see him on Children in Need rather than Grindr. Ruby, Meg and Ash also debate whether Love Island is ready for a trans wheelchair user (or even just hairy armpits?!).

Ash shares his dating highs - sleeping with another trans person for the first time - and dating lows - a comically bad sex moment that he swerved, thanks to asthma and his gran!

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Ash’s recommendations:

• Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire, edited by Alice Wong

Ruby and Meg’s recommendations

• Heartstopper TV series (Netflix)

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