Take Action On Dating - Hack Your Brain To Overcome Doubts And Increase Self-Efficacy.
Summary/Abstract
Duke delate, a life coach and dating coach, is discussing how to take action in one's dating life. He notes that people often have a freeze response when they encounter someone they are attracted to, and this locks them up and prevents them from accessing the parts of their brain that allow them to freely speak and focus. He suggests that his clients practice and tell stories to get past this feeling. He also notes that simply knowing what to do is generally not their problem, as people can talk for hours with friends. The key is to become decisive and take action in one's dating life.
Robert Burns said it best - the best laid plans often go awry. This is especially true when you're trying to do something intimidating, like talking to someone you're attracted to. It's easy to know what you should do, but hard to actually do it. This can be especially true for men, who have to approach women in social settings and make sure to be respectful and not make it awkward. It's important to remember that when you're in this situation, you know what to do - but you can't access your skill sets in the moment. The key is to prepare and practice so that you can break through that barrier and confidently introduce yourself.
This video explores a technique to hack your brain to take action on autopilot without thinking. Duke Delayed explains that there are two sides to the brain: the resourceful side and the non-resourceful side. The non-resourceful side is often attached to fear or a fight-flight response. He then recounts his earliest experiences as a pro dating coach when he would go out and film himself trying to get a girl's phone number and go on a date with her. He explains that YouTube no longer allowed them to do that, but it was a big deal back in the day. The video ultimately shows viewers how to hack their brains to take action automatically.
The speaker was discussing his experiences with anxiety and imposter syndrome when he was trying to talk to girls. He described how he had a vice reporter and people on YouTube tearing him apart and how it made him anxious when he went out to film new YouTube stuff. He talked about how he had to overcome his fear when he saw a beautiful woman who ended up being an Olympic soccer star. He talked about how he was a pickup artist at the time and had a lot of knowledge and skill sets but still couldn't access it when he was in front of her. He also talked about how he had to drop down to being real and authentic. He also talked about how he was getting in his own way and how he has a degree in psychology, mentors and all the craziness he’s gone through to become good at this.
Timestamps
0:00:00 "Taking Action in Your Dating Life: How to Overcome Fear and Be Decisive"
0:02:55 "Overcoming Fear in Social Situations: Strategies for Approaching People"
0:05:08 "Unlocking Your Brain's Autopilot Mode: How to Take Action Without Thinking"
0:07:16 "Overcoming Imposter Syndrome and Accessing Confidence in Social Interactions"
0:12:14 Exploring the Thoughts, Actions, Results, Beliefs Loop to Achieve Super Efficacy
0:14:41 Exploring the Impact of Belief Systems on Thoughts, Actions, and Results
0:16:27 "Exploring the Benefits of a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Upward Spiral Loop"
0:18:33 Exploring the Impact of Core Beliefs on Thought Patterns and Action Taking
0:22:05 Exploring the Impact of Reference Experiences on Belief Systems
0:24:18 Exploring the Benefits of Taking Action in Interpersonal Relationships
0:28:52 "The Power of Changing Your Beliefs: Exploring the Thoughts, Beliefs, Actions, Results Loop"
0:30:39 "Taking Action: The Key to Reforming Your Thoughts and Beliefs"
