Talking points: masculinity, culture

Honored to have connected with the Barefoot Dutchman himself this week. In case you hadn't heard, Anton Nootenboom recently finished walking over 3100 miles—barefoot—from LA to NYC to support men's mental health. Yes. Barefoot. We dig into the why, the how, and Anton's core philosophies. Listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and what the mental and emotional strain was like

(00:15:39) - Why Anton wanted to raise awareness for men’s mental health

(00:22:04) - What are men struggling with the most these days, and what needs to change

(00:37:48) - The struggle of shifting perspectives on men’s culpability and responsibility, and what to say to younger guys

(00:44:12) - Why is it important for men to do hard things?

Anton Nootenboom is a military veteran with three tours in Afghanistan. He faced severe mental health challenges afterwards, including depression and suicidal thoughts. He found healing in barefoot walking and speaking out about his experiences. Today, his journey embodies his message: men should feel empowered to seek help and talk about mental health.

The #BraveMenTalk initiative, launched in partnership with Barebarics, emphasizes that one man dies by suicide every minute globally. Anton’s walk aimed to raise critical funds and encourage men to embrace a new type of bravery—one that fights against stigma and opens up pathways for support.

Connect with Anton:

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebarefoot_dutchman/

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@barefootdutchie

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/anton.nootenboom.3

Talking points: relationships, marriage

Not an easy topic for anyone, but there ARE things you can do that can help things go more smoothly. Whether you chose it or it got chosen for you, I've laid out what you need to ask yourself and how you should proceed. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the best question to ask yourself first

(00:07:18) - How do you know when it’s time to go, and midlife changes

(00:16:12) - Divorcing in anger, and the first thing I say to men who have decided

(00:20:26) - Get a good lawyer, but YOU should focus on the ethics, and more questions to answer

(00:25:17) - Get support and perspective, and what to do if kids are involved

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Talking points: attachment, mindset, psychology

Diving into the deep end for 2025, team. The disorganized attachment style is complex, hard to manage, and my heart goes out to anyone who struggles with this. But over the years of training and study, and working with clients with disorganized attachment, I've found some things that help. Here's your primer, team.

(00:00:00) - Why disorganized attachment is so challenging, what makes it different, and the biggest origin points

(00:09:26) - Digging deeper: how does disorganized attachment get formed?

(00:19:47) - Signs of disorganized attachment as an adult

(00:32:05) - How do you heal this?

(00:43:16) - On the importance of working with your nervous system, and one final piece of advice

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter