Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip?

What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone?

Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether you’re an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life.

Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the “herd mentality”—when we defer to the preferences of those around us—and instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. You’ll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Expand Your Worldview

How to Boost Self-Reliance

How to Connect with New People and Cultures

How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel

Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:48 Do You Need to Go on a Solo Trip?

04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself

11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence

13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview

16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance

19:49 #5: Master Your Mind

21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction

23:09 #7: Vigilance

24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse People

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What are your emotional needs?

How do you communicate them clearly?

Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically.

Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships.

Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to recognize trauma bonds

How to break the cycle of reactivity

How to set healthy boundaries

How to cultivate self-awareness

How to develop emotional resilience

How to foster a growth mindset in relationships

Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:44 You Create Change
• 06:58 Toxic Family Members
• 11:21 Change is Voluntary
• 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions
• 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships
• 22:58 The Unmet Needs
• 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others
• 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos
• 38:18 Is It Genuine Love?
• 41:55 Panic Attack
• 48:54 Chronic Illness
• 53:54 Countering Beliefs
• 57:17 Physiological Shifts
• 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond?
• 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity
• 01:06:24 Inner Child Work
• 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically

Episode Resources:

• Nicole LePera | Website
• Nicole LePera | Instagram
• Nicole LePera | Facebook
• Nicole LePera | TikTok
• Nicole LePera | YouTube
• Nicole LePera | LinkedIn
• How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
• How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

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What lessons have you learned from your past 12 months?

How have your goals evolved over the past months?

Today, Jay reflects on the 12 key lessons he has learned over the past year. He begins by discussing the idea that the seeds we plant—our actions and intentions—manifest as either flowers or weeds, the importance of pursuing meaningful actions for personal fulfillment rather than external validation, and how to distinguish between setting goals and choosing growth, underscoring that genuine progress requires a commitment to personal development rather than simply aiming for outcomes.

The episode highlights the importance of protecting one's purpose from external distractions and maintaining a clear focus on one's path, the challenges we face as opportunities to grow into who we're meant to be, and the concept of defining experiences proactively to shape our own narratives rather than letting circumstances dictate our identities.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to handle envy with love

How to act for fulfillment, not praise

How to focus on growth, not just goals

How to guard your purpose from distractions

How to use challenges to evolve

How to stay open to unexpected help

Stay open to the unexpected, protect your passions, and choose growth over comfort. By doing so, you not only transform your own life but also inspire those around you to do the same.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:29 Lessons Learned in the Past 12 Months

03:50 #1: The seeds you planted in the past will grow into flowers or weeds today.

07:08 #2: Envy will erode your life.

10:27 #3: People forget things quickly, do the right thing and what's meaningful to you.

13:06 #4: Everyone sets goals, not everyone chooses growth.

15:00 #5: Don't let anyone deter you from your purpose.

16:45 #6: Your challenge is designed for you to become who you're meant to become.

18:37 #7: You'll let things define you if you don't define them first.

19:35 #8: Help can come from unlikely sources in unlikely ways.

21:34 #9: Try to see things as an invitation, not an impediment.

24:07 #10: Sometimes to get to your dreams, you have to take the stairs, the elevator, or come through the roof.

25:17 #11: The people you leave behind will feel left behind no matter what you do.

26:35 #12 Love is not enough.

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