Episodes

  • S5E5: Mastering Boundaries: Communicating with Confidence and Compassion

    S5E5: Mastering Boundaries: Communicating with Confidence and Compassion
    Dec 16 2024
    Mastering Boundaries: Communicating with Confidence and Compassion 1. Choosing the Right Moment and Environment
    • Assess the Environment: Choose a setting that feels safe and conducive to open dialogue, avoiding environments with potential distractions or stressors. Research suggests that people are more receptive in calm, neutral settings.
    • Timing Matters: Opt for a time when both you and the other party are relaxed and have the bandwidth for meaningful conversation. This minimizes the risk of defensive reactions and miscommunications.
    2. Framing the Conversation

    Be Direct but Compassionate: Use "I" statements to express your needs without assigning blame. For example, "I need time to recharge in the evenings, so I won't be available for calls after 7 PM".

    • Highlight the Purpose: Emphasize that boundaries help maintain healthier relationships and personal well-being. Transparency about your motives can foster understanding and support from others.
    3. Adjusting Your Approach
    • Immediate Enforcement Consequences: Abrupt changes can lead to confusion or conflict. While sometimes necessary, it’s generally more effective to discuss changes proactively.
    • Casual vs. Formal Discussions: Tailor your approach to the relationship and context. Casual settings might work for minor personal boundaries, while professional boundaries often require formal discussions, possibly even dedicated meetings.
    • Smoothing Transitions: Gradually implement changes where possible, allowing others time to adapt. Reinforce new boundaries with gentle reminders and consistency.
    4. Handling Challenges and Maintaining Flexibility
    • Be Prepared for Pushback: Some may resist or test your boundaries. Respond with calm and reaffirm your stance, but remain open to dialogue for necessary adjustments.
    • Stay Flexible: Life is dynamic, and so are relationships. Be willing to adjust boundaries as situations and relationships evolve, ensuring they continue to serve your overarching goals.

    Keywords:

    Boundaries, Effective Communication, Timing, Environment, Conversations, Empowerment, Leadership, Courage, Needs, Values, Setting, Direct, Compassionate, Dialogue, Scheduling, Change, Personal Relationships, Professional Relationships, Leadership Skills, Graceful Communication
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    15 mins
  • S5E4: Visualizing Boundaries: Conquering Burnout and Enhancing Personal Growth

    S5E4: Visualizing Boundaries: Conquering Burnout and Enhancing Personal Growth
    Dec 9 2024

    In episode of "Overcome to Become," hosted by Dr. Angela Buckley, the focus is on the importance and artistry of setting personal boundaries as a means to combat burnout and foster personal growth. Dr. Buckley, an author and leadership consultant, utilizes Robert Frost's poem "Mending Wall" to illustrate how boundaries define personal space and facilitate health and well-being, much like a garden protected by fences. She encourages listeners to visualize and refine their own boundaries, which should be flexible and considerate of personal values, to effectively manage time and energy while maintaining relationships. Through metaphorical exploration of garden-like boundaries, the episode advocates for cultivating a self-care practice that clearly communicates personal needs, promoting a balanced and resilient life. Listeners are invited to further engage with these concepts through the Strength in Nature Learning Academy. Keywords: Boundaries, Personal Growth, Leadership, Burnout, Mental Health, Well-being, Energy, Time, Professional, Personal Development, Fences, Security, Purpose, Poise, Robert Frost, Mending Wall, Invisible Barriers, Aspiring Leader, Garden, Front Yard, Backyard, Symbiotic Relationship, Actionable Tasks, Transform, Approach
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    7 mins
  • S5E3: Navigating Backlash When Setting Boundaries

    S5E3: Navigating Backlash When Setting Boundaries
    Dec 2 2024

    Setting boundaries can be a game-changer, but how do you handle the backlash from people who aren't ready for your transformation? On this episode of Overcome to Become, I, Dr. Angela Buckley, share insights from my own leadership journey about the critical role of self-fortification and how it helps navigate resistance from friends, family, and colleagues. Through personal anecdotes, like the evolving dynamic between my teenage son and me, we explore how redefining roles can lead to healthier relationships and empower us to reclaim our time and energy. Unpacking the concept of boundary setting, we dive into understanding its role as a self-care strategy. We explore the psychological and emotional responses others have when you begin to say "no" and set limits, challenging their established beliefs and behaviors. Whether you're a seasoned leader or just starting your journey, this episode equips you with actionable strategies to build resilience against the discomfort that naturally arises when you set new boundaries. Join us to learn how acknowledging and addressing this resistance is an essential step toward personal and professional growth. Keywords Leadership, Personal Growth, Boundaries, Self-Fortification, Empowerment, Relationships, Psychological, Emotional, Challenges, Parenting, Resilience, Transformative, Professional, Personal Life, Time, Energy, Communication, Science-Backed, Coaching
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    18 mins
  • S5E2: Transforming Leadership through Boundaries and Support Networks with Dr. Angela Buckley

    S5E2: Transforming Leadership through Boundaries and Support Networks with Dr. Angela Buckley
    Nov 18 2024
    Highlights

    (03:03) Navigating Relationship Changes for Growth (48 Seconds)

    Episode Summary

    What if setting boundaries could be the key to unlocking your leadership potential? Join me, Dr. Angela Buckley, on Overcome to Become, where we unravel the empowering journey of implementing boundaries and the transformative impact of building a supportive community. This episode is all about cultivating a network that respects and uplifts as you navigate the often complex world of boundary setting. We'll delve into practical strategies—like identifying allies, embracing vulnerability, and finding community spaces—that are essential for fostering a robust support system. By sharing my personal experiences as a mother, consultant, and triathlete, I aim to provide you with science-backed insights that can help you overcome overwhelm and beat burnout.

    Explore how boundaries can shift dynamics in your relationships and why a solid support system is critical during this transformative process. Discover how to maintain and strengthen these connections through regular check-ins, gratitude practices, and openness to feedback. We also touch on the emotional challenges of change and the importance of nurturing relationships that align with your values and vision. By the end of this episode, you'll learn how to create a tribe that empowers your transformation and enhances your leadership skills at home, work, and in your community. Tune in, and let’s empower your journey towards personal and professional growth.

    Keywords

    Boundaries, Leadership, Support Network, Overwhelm, Burnout, Relationships, Gratitude, Check-ins, Open-mindedness, Nurturing Connections, Personal Growth, Empowering Insights, Tribe, Elevates, Energizes, Allies, Vulnerability, Community Spaces, Personal Growth, Transformative Power

    References

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    6 mins
  • S5E1: Setting Boundaries to Empower Your No

    S5E1: Setting Boundaries to Empower Your No
    Nov 11 2024

    Chapters Highlights (04:26) Setting Boundaries With Energy Vampires (99 Seconds) Episode Summary Ever felt like you're constantly saying yes, only to end up burned out and exhausted? Discover the transformative power of setting boundaries and the confident "no" as we navigate this crucial aspect of personal well-being in the first episode of season five on Overcome to Become. Join me, Dr. Angela Buckley, as we unpack why boundaries are essential for maintaining mental health and how they can protect your valuable time and energy. Drawing inspiration from the heartfelt story of Maury in Tuesdays with Morrie, we explore how respecting your own and others' boundaries can lead to more fulfilling relationships and a balanced life. This episode equips you with practical strategies to identify your limits and communicate them effectively. Learn to recognize the energy vampires in your life and take charge by prioritizing your self-care. By embracing the empowered no, you can reclaim your focus and direct your energy where it truly matters. Tune in to find out how setting boundaries not only signals self-respect but also ensures you're functioning from a place of strength, ultimately leading to a more harmonious and prosperous life. Keywords Boundaries, Self-Care, Resilience, Relationships, Mental Health, Energy, Prioritizing, Empowerment, Transformative Journey, Saying No, Personal Stories, Notable References, Strategies, Communicate, Control, Well-being, Focus, Priorities, Actionable Insights, Life Balance
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    9 mins
  • S4E10: From Teaching to Coaching: Barb Girson on Leadership, Self-Care, and Managing Stress

    S4E10: From Teaching to Coaching: Barb Girson on Leadership, Self-Care, and Managing Stress
    Oct 28 2024
    Mindset Advice Have you ever wondered how balancing personal and professional life could transform your career? Join us for an inspiring conversation with Barb Girson, RCC™, PCC Speaker, Strategist, Trainer & Registered Corporate Coach™, a former high school teacher who now owns Beyond Sales Tactics. Barb shares her journey from the classroom to business owner to a decade in corporate senior management roles and now executivecoaching, emphasizing the importance of a positive mindset. Learn actionable strategies from Barb's wealth of knowledge in leadership, executive, and career coaching to manage stress and navigate life's overwhelming demands effectively. Discover the significance of self-care in high-pressure roles and why it's crucial for maintaining physical and mental well-being. We explore practical steps, from simple dailyroutines such as walking and getting sunlight to more structured support from personal trainers and coaches. Our discussion highlights the unique challenges faced by women executives, the advantages of seeking professional intervention, and the synergistic benefits of working with both therapists and coaches. Finally, we address the powerful concept of emotional regulation in professional settings. Learn about innovative solutions like the "swear jar" system for fostering a positive work culture and the impact of the amygdala hijack on decision-making. Dive into practical strategies for managing stress responses, including Barb’s the four Ms: Meditation,Mindfulness,Management of self, andMitigation of our story. Celebrate small wins and positive moments with us, and gain insights on cultivating self-compassion and confidence in your everyday life. Tune in to equip yourself with the tools needed to master emotional balance and achieve optimal mental health and performance. Barb Girson Bio Barb Girson is CEO/President of Beyond Sales Tactics, LLC, a professional skill development company that designs & delivers custom training & executive/leadership coaching. They help companies, teams, & entrepreneurs gain confidence, take action, & grow. Barb brings expertise from a high school teacher to building her first multimillion-dollar business & then served for a decade as a corporate national sales director and senior management roles--responsible for up to $40 million in revenue, 500 leaders, & 20,000 consultants. She’s been featured and quoted in USA Today and other local, regional, and national media.Visit BeyondSalesTactics.com Chapter Timestamps(00:01) - Barb Girson(14:39) - Overcoming Overwhelm(31:57) - Managing Overwhelm and Cognitive Responses(40:23) - Regulating Emotional Responses and Rejuvenating(46:41) - Cultivating Mindfulness and Managing Strategies (00:01) Barb GirsonThis chapter introduces Barb Girson, one of my former Professional Coaches, a long-time friend and colleague, as we explore mental mindset and its role in overcoming life's overwhelming demands. We recount our initial meeting at a Columbus Ohio networking event and Barb's evolution from a high school teacher to the owner of Beyond Sales Tactics, focusing on leadership and executive coaching. We discuss the significance of balancing personal and professional lives and how Barb's practical skills incareer coaching help manage stress and anxiety. Barb shares her journey from teaching to sales, communications and business emphasizing the lifelong practice of cultivating a positive mindset to enhance both work and home life. (14:39) Overcoming OverwhelmThis chapter focuses on the importance of self-care and the strategies to maintain physical and mental well-being, especially for those in high-pressure roles. We explore how personal trainers and coaches can make a significant difference in prioritizing self-care and overcoming limiting beliefs. Highlighting daily routines like getting sunlight and walking, we discuss how these habits support showing up as our best selves. The conversation also addresses the feeling of overwhelm, particularly among womenexecutives, and the need for recognizing when professional intervention is necessary. Emphasizing the role of coaching in developing positive habits and behaviors, we also touch upon the balance of working with both therapists and coaches to achieve optimal mental health and performance. (31:57) Managing Overwhelm and Cognitive Responses This chapter explores the challenges of maintaining punctuality in organizational meetings and the innovative solution of implementing a 'swear jar' system for latecomers, with the collected funds donated to a noble cause. We discuss how this initiative not only fostered punctuality but also created a positive and fun environment, ultimately establishing a new culture of respect for meeting times. Additionally, we touch on the importance of work-life balance and how structured end-of-day timings support it. Finally, we examine the concept of the amygdala hijack, as coined by Daniel ...
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    1 hr
  • Resilience and Leadership: Overcoming Life's Storms Through Determination and Love

    Resilience and Leadership: Overcoming Life's Storms Through Determination and Love
    Oct 21 2024
    Immerse yourself in the gripping tale of an endurance athlete's mission to walk his daughter down the aisle amidst the chaos of Hurricane Helene. Against all odds, this determined father showcases his resilience and adaptability, navigating washed-out roads and relentless storms with a single goal in mind. From quicksand-like mud to the unexpected kindness of strangers, his story is a testament to the enduring power of a father's love and the human spirit's capacity for perseverance. Discover the transformative journey of David Jones, a seasoned engineer turned leadership consultant, as he shares his inspiring story from corporate America to founding Excellence Advisory. Promising actionable strategies, David exposes the secrets to guiding leaders and organizations from merely good to truly great by focusing on leadership and mindset development. His insights on combating burnout and achieving organizational excellence will leave you with a fresh perspective on setting action plans and ensuring their successful implementation. Join us in exploring universal themes of love and resilience, as communities rally together in the aftermath of a hurricane. While reflecting on the emotional and practical challenges faced during these trying times, we share invaluable lessons on preparedness, faith, and leadership. With heartwarming anecdotes and leadership lessons drawn from real-life experiences, this episode invites you to redefine your approach to life's storms and exemplifies how personal growth can blossom even in the most daunting circumstances. Contact David: LinkedIn David's GoFundMe for the Red Cross & Hurricane Helene' Rebuild Efforts https://americanredcross.donordrive.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=donorDrive.personalCampaign&participantID=9397 Time Stamps: (00:01) Overcome to Become(10:58) Endurance Athlete's Hurricane Survival Story(20:35) Survival Journey Through a Hurricane(32:54) Unexpected Hurricane Survival(40:30) Father's Love and Resilience(50:19) Leadership Lessons From Hurricane Survivor(59:44) Self-Leadership for Success Chapters & Summaries (00:01) Overcome to Become This chapter introduces David Jones, an engineer and leadership consultant, who shares his journey from corporate America to teaching and consulting. We explore how David's career in engineering and his passion for business excellence led him to join the PALS Business Excellence Institute, where he honed his skills in teaching and consulting before founding his own company, Excellence Advisory. I highlight David's dedication to helping leaders and organizations transition from good to great through public speaking, teaching, and consulting. Our discussion emphasizes the importance of leadership and mindset development, with a focus on actionable strategies for overcoming burnout and achieving organizational excellence. Additionally, we reflect on the value of setting action plans and follow-ups to ensure successful implementation of learned concepts. (10:58) Endurance Athlete's Hurricane Survival Story This chapter captures the extraordinary journey of an endurance athlete determined to walk his daughter down the aisle amidst the chaos of Hurricane Helene. After the storm disrupted his travel plans from Boiling Springs, South Carolina to Johnson City, Tennessee, he navigated through downed power lines and closed roads, showing immense resilience and adaptability. Despite reaching a roadblock with washed-out bridges and being advised by state troopers to wait until morning, he chose to continue on foot with only a backpack and a Garmin watch, driven by the vision of his daughter's wedding. We explore his mindset and the series of adjustments he made during this challenging and unexpected journey. (20:35) Survival Journey Through a Hurricane This chapter captures an extraordinary journey of determination and faith as an endurance athlete recounts their mission to reach Johnson City for their daughter's wedding despite daunting obstacles following a hurricane. Having run 11 marathons, the athlete confidently embarks on the journey, navigating washed-out roads and deep debris in the dead of night. The story unfolds with encounters of bulldozers and backhoes clearing the path, requiring quick thinking and brave maneuvering. At one point, the athlete finds themselves stuck in quicksand-like mud, leading to a desperate plea for divine assistance. Overcoming physical challenges, including retrieving a lost shoe from the mud, they ingeniously navigate a massive debris pile by crawling and rolling through it. This tale of resilience underscores the power of perseverance and the human spirit's ability to triumph over adversity. (32:54) Unexpected Hurricane Survival This chapter shares a gripping tale of determination and survival as I recount my unexpected journey to my daughter's wedding after a hurricane disrupted travel plans. Initially unprepared for the 27-mile trek, which included 17 miles on foot and 10 by car, I relied on ...
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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • S4E9: Building Resilience and Community in Challenging Workplaces with Jay Voigt

    S4E9: Building Resilience and Community in Challenging Workplaces with Jay Voigt
    Oct 14 2024
    What happens when a people pleaser transforms into a people leader? Join me, Dr. Angela Buckley, as I chat with Jay Voigt from Human Capital Consulting about this crucial transition. Jay brings his extensive healthcare and consulting background to the table, sharing insights on recognizing and managing stress as the initial step toward personal and professional growth. Together, we explore practical strategies for self-reflection, such as meditation and journaling, which can help leaders pause, assess their mindset, and make better decisions in both their personal and professional lives. We also dive into the realm of personal growth through athletic pursuits, drawing intriguing parallels between the meditative nature of open water swimming and leadership challenges. Embracing discomfort and stepping out of comfort zones emerge as essential elements for growth, whether in the pool or the boardroom. We discuss the delicate balance of pushing for progress while ensuring adequate rest, something that impacts both athletes and workplace productivity. Amidst the technological advances shaping our interactions, we emphasize the importance of authentic, face-to-face connections in nurturing meaningful relationships and fostering social skills. The conversation doesn't shy away from addressing serious issues like the challenges women face in male-dominated fields and the impact of trauma in the workplace. We highlight the power of community and support networks in overcoming feelings of overwhelm, sharing experiences from diverse communities where connection sparks growth. By understanding trauma's varied effects, leaders can create an environment where safety and trust are prioritized. The episode closes with valuable insights into empowering leadership and self-growth, encouraging listeners to master self-leadership and transform their approach to prevent burnout and enhance overall well-being. Chapters & Summaries (00:01) Leadership Mindset and Self-Reflection This chapter focuses on the journey from being overwhelmed to becoming an effective leader, highlighting the transition from people pleaser to people leader. Dr. Angela Buckley, along with guest Jay Voigt from Human Capital Consulting, discusses the importance of recognizing stress and distress as a starting point for personal and professional growth. We explore various methods to identify one's current state, such as breathing exercises, meditation, or journaling, emphasizing the significance of understanding one's emotional and physical state to make better decisions. Jay shares insights from his background in healthcare and consulting, stressing the need for leaders to continuously assess their mindset to avoid reactivity both at work and at home. Practical advice is given on how listeners can pause, reflect, and acknowledge their current state, helping them to bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be as leaders. (14:55) Navigating Growth and Communication Trends This chapter explores the transition from competitive swimming to outdoor and long course swimming, highlighting the shift away from repetitive pool competition to the meditative nature of open water swims. We discuss the concept of comfort zones and the importance of facing discomfort to foster personal growth, both in athletic pursuits and in leadership roles. The conversation touches on the necessity of balancing pushing oneself with adequate rest and recovery, using the analogy of training phases for endurance athletes. This balance is also crucial in workplace dynamics, where supervisors play a key role in assessing and managing team productivity without overwhelming their employees. Finally, we address the impact of modern technology on personal connections, emphasizing the importance of genuine, in-person interactions to develop social skills and maintain meaningful relationships. (30:09) Building Community and Support Networks This chapter explores the challenges faced by women in male-dominated fields, highlighting personal experiences of being the only female in manufacturing and engineering spaces, including difficulties like access to restrooms. We discuss the importance of building a sense of community to overcome feelings of overwhelm and stress, emphasizing how connection with others is vital for emotional support and growth. The conversation touches on various community types, such as sporting, cancer, veteran, and addiction communities, as places where shared experiences foster connection. We also discuss the parallels between coaching and therapy in facilitating community building and the significance of having mentors to sustain personal development beyond formal coaching sessions. Through these insights, we underline the value of setting boundaries, expectations, and fostering support networks to navigate personal and professional changes. (38:31) Understanding Trauma in the Workplace This chapter focuses on the profound impact trauma can have on ...
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    56 mins