Summary

In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts and Andrew Pain discuss the critical need for positive male role models in today's society.

They explore the challenges faced by men, including disaffection and societal expectations, and the importance of reinventing masculinity.

The conversation delves into the impact of environment on personal growth, the necessity of community support for men's mental health, and the significance of critical thinking in navigating gender inequalities.

They also address the role of testosterone in men's health and the essential nature of boundaries in relationships.

Takeaways

Positive male role models are crucial for young men.

Masculinity should be viewed as a positive force.

Reinventing oneself requires a supportive environment.

Men's mental health is often overlooked in discussions.

Gender inequalities should be addressed simultaneously for both men and women.

Community support is vital for men's wellbeing.

Critical thinking is essential to combat tribalism.

Testosterone plays a significant role in men's health.

Teaching boundaries is necessary for healthy relationships.

Respecting personal boundaries is key to maintaining self-worth.

Contact Info:-

Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Guest info:-

Andrew Pain is a Motivational, Mental Health Speaker, Podcaster & CPD accredited. Talking about men's mental health, testosterone, masculinity, burnout, resilience, psychological safety, fatherhood, imposter syndrome, work/life balance.

Lined in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain/

Website - www.andrewpain.co.uk

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Positive Male Role Models

06:38 Reinventing Masculinity and Personal Growth

13:02 The Impact of Environment on Reinvention

16:55 Navigating Gender Dynamics and Societal Expectations

23:01 The Need for Safe Spaces for Men

29:10 Critical Thinking and Community Connection

32:37 Understanding Testosterone and Its Effects

39:48 The Future of Relationships and Boundaries

Summary

In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, host Alan Watts speaks with dating coach Marnie about the importance of date nights in maintaining healthy relationships.

Marnie shares her journey into dating coaching, emphasising the need for couples to intentionally spend time together to strengthen their bond.

They discuss creative date night ideas, the challenges couples face in long-term relationships, and the role of communication in fostering connection.

Marnie also highlights the impact of technology on relationships and the importance of personal growth.

The conversation concludes with Marnie's personal dating story and her thoughts on the evolution of dating in modern times.

Takeaways

Date nights are essential for maintaining a healthy relationship.

Couples should prioritise spending quality time together.

Creative date ideas can reignite the spark in a relationship.

Communication is key to understanding each other's needs.

Using technology can enhance relationship planning.

Regular date nights can reduce the likelihood of divorce.

Finding time for each other is crucial in busy lives.

Personal growth contributes to relationship satisfaction.

Navigating modern dating requires awareness of challenges.

It's important to reconnect with the feelings from the start of a relationship.

Contact Info:-Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Guest info:- Marnie, The Date Night Designer, is on a mission to reconnect couples with the magic of their love story. Tackling the struggle to find quality time, her signature Date Night Design Session is a 1:1 to reignite connection with ideas beyond the mundane. With a career spanning business support, performance, theatre and event management, she uniquely blends creativity and problem-solving.

Her Gold Membership offers community, expert guidance, and curated date ideas. For extraordinary experiences, her Platinum Membership includes exclusive quarterly date nights and flagship Diamond Whirlwind Mystery Day is a surprise-filled adventure.

Marnie's absolute joy is helping couples rediscover and celebrate their love.

Book a 1:1 Date Night Design Session –Exclusive Offer for Love Engineer audience:FIRST 3 who DM Marnie on LinkedIn or Insta quoting “Love Engineer” £20 off - £77 instead of £97

Website - https://thedatenightdesigner.com/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565592442563

Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/marnienash/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Relationship Coaching

03:32 Marnie's Journey to Dating Coaching

06:27 The Importance of Date Nights

09:22 Creative Date Night Ideas

12:17 Challenges in Maintaining Date Nights

14:45 Communication in Relationships

17:50 Using Technology for Date Planning

20:38 The Role of Gender in Date Planning

23:34 The Impact of Date Nights on Relationships

29:27 Navigating Relationship Changes

33:14 The 80-20 Rule in Relationships

37:04 The Modern Dating Landscape

40:35 Meeting Partners: The Old vs. New Ways

47:40 Reconnecting with Your Partner

51:43 Exploring New Activities Together

Summary

In this conversation, Alan Watts and Michelle Mills-Porter explore the intricacies of personality profiling, the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, and the importance of understanding values and communication in fostering healthy connections.

They discuss the significance of humour and compromise in relationships, the effects of trauma and PTSD, and the role of love languages in understanding partners.

The conversation emphasises the need for self-awareness and empathy in navigating relationships and highlights the importance of finding common ground to ensure lasting connections.

Takeaways

Understanding personality profiling can enhance relationships.

Childhood experiences significantly shape adult behaviour and values.

Humour can be a powerful tool in resolving conflicts.

Compromise is essential for successful relationships.

Values are often reflections of upbringing and experiences.

Memory and perception can differ greatly between individuals.

Changing behavior requires consistent effort over time.

Early childhood experiences have lasting impacts on personality.

Communication is key to understanding differences in relationships.

Generational trauma can influence current behaviours and relationships.

Contact Info:-

Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them.Alan's socials and website can be found on ⁠www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer⁠

Guest Info

Michelle Mills-Porter "The People Reader"

Websites - thepeoplereader.com/ (Company)

mmp.uk.com/ (Personal)

Lined in - linkedin.com/in/michellemillsporter

Michelle's passion for unleashing human magnificence stems from my personal journey of surviving the biggest natural disaster in our living history, the 2004 Boxing Day tsunami, where she discovered what is at the heart of humanity and what truly motivates us.

From years of using analysis tools, Michelle felt there was something missing, and so she created a set of illuminating analysis tools that are consistently celebrated as the best that my clients have ever seen.

These include ESSENCE, CLARITY, RAPID RAPPORT, NAVIGATOR and ILLUMINATOR which reveal our true motivations, our specific behaviour profile, how to build rapport, how to navigate our relationships (for young adults and children.) and identifying neurodivergence in the workplace. I work with people passionate organisations that are going through change, disruption, or growth, and empower them to achieve sky-high performance, increase engagement, retention and effective collaboration.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Location

03:39 The Boxing Day Tsunami and Changing Perspectives

04:28 Profiling and Navigating Relationships

06:45 The Lack of Relationship Education in Schools

08:54 Love and Compatibility

12:17 Changing Behaviour and the Role of Emotions

14:10 The Importance of Conscious and Subconscious Memory

16:48 Changing Behavior and the 10,000 Hour Rule

20:15 The Lack of Guidance in Raising Children

22:49 The Power of Collective Action

24:36 The Anxiety of Not Knowing

26:34 The Power of Humour in Relationships

29:39 Exploring Love Languages and Their Impact on Relationships

32:35 Addressing Trauma Triggers in Relationships

42:49 The Importance of Compromise in Building Strong Partnerships

Summary

In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts speaks with Peter Roper, the family business man, about the intricacies of blending family and business. They discuss the unique challenges faced by family businesses, the importance of values in relationships, and the necessity of effective communication. Peter shares insights from his own experiences, emphasising the need for tolerance, understanding, and the ability to listen in both personal and professional relationships. The conversation highlights the significance of being true to oneself and the impact of values on family dynamics and business success.

Takeaways

Family businesses often start with the goal of putting food on the table.

The dynamics of family businesses can be both rewarding and challenging.

Listening is a crucial skill that many people overlook.

Values play a significant role in shaping relationships and business practices.

It's important to recognise and respect differing values within a family.

Successful relationships are built on friendship and tolerance.

The corporate world often misunderstands the nature of family businesses.

Money can provide options, but it doesn't guarantee happiness.

Being true to oneself is essential for personal and professional success.

Communication is key to resolving conflicts and misunderstandings.

Contact Info:-

Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on ⁠www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer⁠

Guest Info

Peter Roper "The Family Business Man"

Having a Family Business is wonderful, but you must work in a different way to achieve the results you are searching for.
Peter was in your shoes, frustrated with social media and endless poor networking events with no results… and even gave up at one point.
But when he finally cracked the challenge, he obtained the Family Business he always wanted enabling him to fill the fridge , sleep at night and work with those clients he Knew, Liked and Trusted.
And now, he mainly works with family businesses showing them the secrets he uncovered so that his system can start working for them too…
…and He’d love to help you crack the challenge for you and your family.
Having worked with businesses around the globe 🌍 Peter realised there are 3 main challenges you and others have when generating leads for a Family Business:
❌ Working with clients that have a poor attitude and are terrible to create a relationship with
❌ Providing a service to people who don’t value you or your contribution
❌ Constantly haggling over the price and payment
To solve these challenges, Peter teaches a simple 5 step system that helps you:
✔️ Understand the type of Ideal Client you really want
✔️ Create and maintain a Reputation that attracts Ideal Clients
✔️ Put the right strategy in place to get your ideal clients wanting to talk with you
It's called the 💪🏼 Family Business Practice Diagnostic 💪🏼 and it shows you how to create and maintain a successful Family Business.

Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/peteraroper/

Websites - peterroper.com

familybusinesspractice.com

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

04:38 The Journey of Starting a Family Business

07:45 Blending Family and Business: Challenges and Dynamics

11:19 The Unique Culture of Family Businesses

16:18 The Secrets to a Long-Lasting, Fulfilling Relationship

21:16 The Challenges and Rewards of Running a Family Business

24:04 The Importance of Values in Family Businesses

28:54 Recognizing and Respecting Different Value Sets

31:22 The Power of Listening in Relationships

46:55 Finding Clarity and Fulfillment through Values

Summary

In this conversation, Dr. Eran Magen and Alan Watts explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on parenting, divorce, and the emotional challenges faced by fathers.

They discuss the lack of relationship education, the importance of communication, and the impact of divorce on children. The conversation emphasises the need for support systems, the role of counseling, coaching, and the significance of maintaining connections during difficult times.

Dr. Magen shares insights on navigating the family court system and the importance of mediation, while also highlighting the journey of healing and personal growth following a divorce.

Takeaways

Relationships are not taught in schools, which is a significant issue.

The biggest determinant of health and happiness is the quality of relationships.

Dads often face high rates of suicide, highlighting the need for support.

Parenting should focus on reducing stress and increasing enjoyment.

Men often struggle to express their emotions, leading to isolation.

Communication is key in co-parenting and maintaining relationships.

Counseling should be seen as a proactive measure, not just a last resort.

Divorce can lead to significant emotional challenges for both parents and children.

It's crucial to maintain connections and seek support during tough times.

Healing and personal growth are possible after divorce, often leading to better outcomes.

Contact Info:-

Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"
Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them.
Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Guest Info

Eran Magen Ph.D. is a Population Health Psychologist, Founder and CEO of Early Alert (EarlyAlert.me) and Parenting For Humans (ParentingForHumans.com)

www.earlyalert.me

www.parentingforhumans.com

Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/eranmagen/

Early Alert helps universities and K-12 schools prevent student suicide, by checking in with every student every week using confidential text messaging, offering instant referrals to students who need them, and providing a real-time wellness dashboard to support continuous improvement.

Parenting For Humans is a relationship-first, judgment-free approach to parenting that emphasizes collaboration and joy in parenting. For recorded workshops and to sign up for classes, visit http://ParentingForHumans.com

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and the Lack of Relationship Education

03:21 Prevention in Relationships: Open Communication and Check-Ins

06:28 Supporting Divorced Dads and Maintaining Connection with Children

16:18 Understanding the Emotional Experiences of Men and Women in Divorce

28:07 Spreading the Message: Things Get Better After Divorce

30:22 Becoming the Father Your Kids Need: Finding Motivation and Support

36:51 Navigating the Family Court System: Fair Custody Arrangements

38:53 Effective Communication and Mediation: Resolving Conflicts

49:20 Avoiding Court Battles: Non-Adversarial Approaches

53:18 Reaching Out for Support: Friends, Family, and Professionals

55:57 Enjoying Life During and After Divorce: Finding Happiness

Summary

In this conversation, wedding planner Katy shares her journey into the wedding planning industry, discussing the various roles and responsibilities of a wedding planner compared to a wedding coordinator.

She highlights the importance of budgeting, the cultural differences in weddings, and the keys to a successful wedding day. Katy also delves into the distinction between marriage and wedding, emphasising the significance of communication and pre-marital counseling in maintaining a healthy relationship.

The discussion touches on modern wedding practices, traditions, and lessons learned from past experiences.

Contact info Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Guest info

Katy Osborne

Katy takes the stress away from wedding planning.

Website - http://www.kovasupport.com

Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-osborne/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:10 The Role of a Wedding Planner

05:02 The Average Cost of a Wedding

09:22 The Unique Traditions of Indian Weddings

15:12 Keys to a Successful Marriage

20:46 Balancing Work and Family Life

24:45 The Importance of Open Communication

28:17 Advice for Couples on Their Wedding Day

31:12 Dealing with Unexpected Challenges

Takeaways

Katy fell into wedding planning after university.

A wedding planner provides peace of mind for couples.

Budgeting is crucial for a successful wedding.

Cultural differences significantly impact wedding planning.

Communication is essential in both weddings and marriages.

Pre-marital counseling can prevent future issues.

Traditions in weddings vary widely across cultures.

Enjoying the wedding day is more important than perfection.

Every wedding has its unique challenges and surprises.

Marriage requires ongoing effort and communication.

Summary

Mark Deeks, a musician and speaker, shares his journey from being a musician to using music as a tool for mental health and wellbeing. He discusses the challenges of making a living from music and the misconceptions around it. Mark also opens up about the loss of his child and the emotional and mental health journey that followed.

He highlights the importance of finding positivity and healing through music and shares how he incorporated his daughter's existence into his music.

In this conversation, Alan and Mark discuss their personal experiences with music and how it has impacted their lives. They share stories about their favourite bands and albums, as well as the role music played during challenging times.

They also touch on the evolution of relationships and the challenges of dating. Mark emphasises the importance of establishing boundaries and context in relationships, while Alan reflects on the difficulties of dating after a divorce.

Contact info

Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"

Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them.

Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Guest info

Mark Deeks is a speaker on music & mental health. Keynotes & workshops to improve the wellbeing of you & your people with piano, group singing & heavy metal. Often at the same time 🎹🤘🏻 And yes, his PhD is in heavy metal. Honest.

Website - www.markdeeksmusic.com

Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-deeks/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/MarkDeeksMusicNewcastle

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:21 The Challenges of Making a Living as a Musician

09:22 Using Music as Therapy for Grief and Loss

22:18 The Need for Support and Understanding for Individuals Who Have Experienced Child Loss

27:53 The Healing Power of Music

31:55 The Influence of Music on Relationships

37:15 The Evolution of Music and Changing Sound of Bands

41:09 The Love for Classic Metal and Rock

43:47 The Stress of Dating and Establishing Boundaries

Takeaways

Music is a powerful tool for mental health and wellbeing, and it can be used as a form of therapy and healing.

Making a living from music is challenging, and there are misconceptions about the financial aspects of being a musician.

The loss of a child is a traumatic experience, and it can be difficult to find the right support and language to talk about it.

Finding positivity and creating something meaningful can help in the healing process after a loss. Music can have a profound impact on our lives, providing comfort and inspiration during challenging times.

The evolution of relationships and the challenges of dating can be stressful and require the establishment of boundaries and context.

It's important not to judge a book by its cover or make assumptions about someone based on their appearance.

The early albums of bands often hold a special place in the hearts of fans, but it's important to appreciate the growth and evolution of artists over time.

Establishing a deep connection and understanding with a partner can make the dating process less daunting and more fulfilling.

Summary In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts interviews Joanne and Anthony Taylor, a happily married couple who also work together. They discuss the challenges and benefits of being married and working as a team. The couple met through their licensed user training in 2015 and started their business together after getting married. They emphasise the importance of communication and understanding each other's strengths and areas of growth. They also highlight the need for self-reflection and taking responsibility for one's part in the relationship. The couple shares their top three lessons: working at the relationship, effective communication, and making time for fun and play. They also recommend using psychometric profiles to gain insights into each other's personalities and navigate challenges. Self-awareness is crucial in relationships and can help navigate challenges. It is important to let go of control and share responsibilities. Communication and being on the same page are key in a relationship. Taking care of oneself and the relationship is essential for the well-being of children. Understanding oneself and working on personal growth is important for being a better partner. Teaching psychometrics in schools can have a positive impact on confidence and relationships. Social media can negatively affect relationships and comparison. Relationship classes and investing in friendships and relationships should be prioritised. Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Relationship & Dating coach. Alans contact info & links www.lintr.ee/LoveEngineer Guest info Anthony & Joanne Taylor Website - ⁠www.aqrconsulting.co.uk⁠ Linked in Anthony - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ant-taylor-mindsetcoach/ Joanne - https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanne-taylor-psychometric-assessments-for-talent-management/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:30 Working with Family 05:58 The Importance of Communication 08:04 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth 12:31 Prioritising Happiness in the Relationship 14:40 Maintaining Intimacy and Romance 17:33 Lessons from Previous Marriages 21:54 The Value of Psychometric Profiles 28:12 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Communication 36:52 Navigating Difficult Conversations and Prioritising the Relationship 41:52 The Potential for a Revolution in Relationships through Psychometrics Takeaways Working together as a married couple requires effective communication and understanding each other's strengths and areas of growth. Self-reflection and taking responsibility for one's part in the relationship are crucial for personal growth and a successful partnership. Making time for fun and play, as well as recognising and appreciating each other's efforts, helps maintain a strong connection. Using psychometric profiles can provide valuable insights into each other's personalities and facilitate better communication and understanding. Self-awareness is crucial in navigating challenges and sharing responsibilities in a relationship. Communication and being on the same page are key in maintaining a healthy relationship. Taking care of oneself and the relationship is essential for the well-being of children. Understanding oneself and working on personal growth leads to being a better partner. Teaching psychometrics in schools can have a positive impact on confidence and relationships. Social media can negatively affect relationships through comparison. Investing in friendships and relationships should be prioritised.