"Family is family."

We’ve been told this our whole lives—that no matter what they’ve done, how they treat us, or how much pain they cause—we owe them: loyalty, forgiveness, and endless chances.

But let’s be real—blood alone doesn’t make someone family.

In this episode, we’re stripping away the lies we’ve been conditioned to believe. We’re confronting the guilt, the obligation, and the fear of walking away from relationships that do nothing but drain us. We’re exposing the romanticized version of family that keeps us holding on, waiting, hoping, convincing ourselves they'll change.

But what if they never do?

What if the love, safety, and support you’ve been waiting for isn’t tied to DNA—but to the people who actually show up for you?

This is about breaking cycles of generational harm and rejecting the idea that we have to stay tied to people just because we share a bloodline. It’s about giving yourself permission to choose your family—the people who love you without conditions.

• ​We’re tearing down the guilt.
• ​We’re rebuilding with truth.
• ​And we’re creating space for relationships that actually nourish us.

So, let’s talk about it. Let’s challenge what we’ve been taught and start defining family on our own terms.

If this episode shakes something in you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Because you don’t owe anyone a place in your life just because of blood. And that truth? Might just set you free.

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I want to hear from you. Scroll down and answer the Spotify poll—have you ever felt obligated to keep a relationship with a family member, even when it was hurting you?

Let’s face it—if you’re feeling stuck, there’s a good chance that someone in your life is either enabling your behavior or you’re enabling someone else.

You might not see it at first, but enabling keeps both sides trapped in a cycle of dependency and avoidance.

In this raw, unfiltered episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on how enabling works—whether you’re the one enabling someone’s bad habits or the one being held back from growth.

This episode isn't just about the enablers around you—it's about the one you might be becoming, too.

It’s time to call out the well-meaning, but toxic, behaviors that keep people stuck in a loop of fear, guilt, and complacency.

For the enabler, it’s time to stop rescuing, stop making excuses, and start empowering others to stand on their own two feet.

For the one being enabled, it’s time to stop relying on others to solve your problems and start owning your own growth.

We’re diving deep into how to break the cycle from both sides, strip away the lies, and finally take responsibility for your own life.

This episode isn’t about blame—it’s about breaking free from a pattern that’s keeping you from becoming who you’re meant to be. If you’re ready to confront the hard truths and rebuild something stronger, this is your wake-up call.

Listen. Reflect. Break the cycle. It’s time to stop being held back by others—and to stop holding others back.

Subscribe and let’s continue the work of renovating the soul, one tough conversation at a time.

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Your soul is breaking, and your body is paying the price. In this episode of Renovating the Soul, we’re diving into the truth we’ve all been avoiding: unresolved emotional pain is ruining our physical health. You’ve been carrying the weight of brokenness, stress, unhealed wounds, and trauma for far too long, and it’s showing up in your body—through chronic pain, exhaustion, digestive issues, and more. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to stay stuck in this cycle.

This episode pulls no punches. We’re shaking up the lies you’ve believed about your emotional health and exposing how unprocessed feelings are making your body break down. It’s time to stop pretending that pushing emotions down doesn’t have consequences. The mind-body connection is real, and your emotional wounds have taken a toll on your physical being.

Get ready to face the mess. We’ll explore how unresolved emotions like anger, grief, and fear wreak havoc on your body, and how emotional intelligence is the key to breaking this cycle. We’ll dig deep into how your emotional state can either heal you or continue to tear you apart, and why healing your soul is the only way to truly heal your body.

If you’re tired of the pain, tired of feeling disconnected from your own body, and ready for something different, this episode is for you. Don’t stay stuck. It’s time to start the work to break free—tear down the old, and build something new.

Listen. Reflect. Engage. Your body has been telling you the truth all along—it’s time to listen.

Sources referenced in this episode:

Article - How Emotional Processes Affect Physical Health and Well Being

"Emotion: A Very Short Introduction" by Dylan Evans

"Why Emotions Matter" by Tristen Collins & Jonathan Collins with Melissa Binder

"Philosophy of Emotion" by Christine Tappolet

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Your roots, what you believe, what you've been taught, what you've absorbed without ever questioning—are what make you who you are. The hard truth? If you don't dig deep and confront what's buried beneath the surface, you'll never be able to grow beyond your past. In this raw, unapologetic episode of Renovating the Soul, we pull back the layers and expose the uncomfortable truths hiding in your roots.

What beliefs are you holding onto simply because they’ve always been there? What stories have you accepted that aren’t even yours? It’s time to stop pretending they’re harmless. The stories we inherit, the patterns we repeat, and the lies we’ve swallowed shape every part of our lives—our decisions, our relationships, our happiness.

This season is about stripping it all down, challenging the narratives that keep you stuck, and rebuilding from the ground up. You can’t evolve until you address the mess beneath you. But here's the kicker: you have to be willing to face it.

In this episode, we’ll help you:

Recognize the hidden influences that shape your beliefs—family, culture, past trauma.

Confront the surface-level ideals you’ve been holding onto, and why they’re stopping you from growing.

Understand how your roots—good or bad—hold the power to either anchor you or keep you stagnant.

This is your wake-up call. It's time to confront the mess beneath your surface, dig up the beliefs that don’t serve you, and rebuild stronger. Are you ready to face what's been hiding?

If you're serious about breaking free and rebuilding, don't skip this one.

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For too long, the church has sheltered predators and silenced survivors. Behind pulpits, under the banner of faith, spiritual abusers have twisted scripture into a weapon, demanded loyalty over truth, and convinced people that obedience to them is obedience to God.

In this episode, we expose how predators hide in plain sight, why the church protects them, and what it costs to break free. If you've ever experienced spiritual abuse in the church, felt trapped by religious trauma, or been made to believe that leaving a toxic church meant leaving God, you're not crazy. And you're not alone.

Jesus flipped tables over religious corruption. Maybe it's time we start flipping some tables too.

Listen now. And if this episode shakes something in you...maybe it's time to start asking the hard questions.

Resources

Book 1 - The Subtle Signs of Spiritual Abuse

Book 2 - Churches that Abuse

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Breaking Cycles, Rebuilding Souls

If your soul is your home—why are you still living in a place built by other people's expectations, past wounds, and false beliefs?

This season, Renovating the Soul is about breaking free from toxic cycles, confronting the beliefs that have shaped us, and figuring out how to move forward from where we are. Healing isn't about perfection—it's facing the mess head-on and doing the real work.

We're tackling spiritual abuse, toxic relationships, identity struggles, suffering, and what it really takes to heal.

✔What happens when the church you trusted wasn't what you thought it was?

✔What if healing isn't about perfection, but about breaking free?

✔Why do we glorify suffering like it's proof of our worth?

✔And what if the "family" we choose turns out to be just as toxic as the one we left?

Your soul is your home. It's time to make it a place you want to live.

This isn't just another podcast—this is a movement.A call to stop patching over cracks and start building something real.

Season 2 is here. Let's get to work.

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As we celebrate the season finale of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria invites you to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery by asking a profound question: What are your soul goals?

In this empowering episode, we delve deep into the essence of setting intentions that resonate with your true self. Alexandria explores how identifying your soul goals can lead to a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life. She offers insightful guidance on how to uncover these inner desires, align them with your daily actions, and overcome obstacles that may hinder your personal growth.

This episode is a culmination of the themes we've explored throughout the season—introspection, personal development, and the courage to transform from within. It's not just a wrap-up; it's a launching pad for your continued journey towards self-fulfillment.

Join us for this inspiring conclusion to Season 1, and let's set the stage for even greater growth in Season 2! Thank you for being part of this incredible journey.

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How to Do the Right Thing

In this thought-provoking episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria explores the powerful and often misunderstood emotions surrounding revenge. While many of us feel the urge for retribution, how often does it truly bring us the satisfaction we seek?

Alexandria dives into the lingering "shoulda, coulda, wouldas" that keep us stuck in a cycle of emotional unrest. From old wounds to fresh frustrations, she unpacks the psychological impact of clinging to thoughts of revenge and asks an important question: does getting even ever truly heal the pain?

This episode provides practical insights into why revenge can keep us trapped in the past and how to break free through self-reflection, emotional healing, and forgiveness. If you’ve ever wrestled with anger or struggled to let go of a grudge, this episode offers a fresh perspective and actionable tools to help you move forward.

Tune in to Episode 9 and join the conversation on breaking free from the burden of vengeance to find true peace.

Resources

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Article on Forgiveness

How to Do the Right Thing: An Ancient Guide to Treating People Fairly