Episodes

  • I'm Being Honest With Myself and Honestly I'm NOT Selfish | #071

    I'm Being Honest With Myself and Honestly I'm NOT Selfish | #071
    Jan 27 2025
    Lou walked out of therapy because he just wasn't feeling it; Michael did EMDR. Lou and Michael recount an uncomfortable conversation they had off-air. Michael has been challenged to take a serious look at himself and his patterns and be honest with himself. Michael reflects on his need to explain his behaviors before getting into shame. Lou and Michael debate intent versus impact before getting into what outward behaviors are actually rooted in self preservation.

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    1 hr
  • I Had an Emotionally Immature Parent and Now I Can't Be Vulnerable | #070

    I Had an Emotionally Immature Parent and Now I Can't Be Vulnerable | #070
    Jan 20 2025
    Lou still hates a mismatch as he struggles with his desire to be more vulnerable. Lou and Michael discuss what it means to ask for emotional support. Lou's therapist dropped a bombshell on where shame comes from, especially if you had emotionally immature parents or if your parents always fixed your mistakes for you. Lou takes care of everything and hates it and loves it. Lou and Michael talk about whether we are alone in life. Sidenote: you can hear the extreme winds that spread fire across Los Angeles, throughout the episode. We did our best with the audio.

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    51 mins
  • One Of Those Long, Intimate Kitchen Conversations | #069

    One Of Those Long, Intimate Kitchen Conversations | #069
    Jan 13 2025
    In a different type of episode, Lou and Michael break down an emotional conversation they had just before sitting down to record the podcast.

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    45 mins
  • It's a New Year (Again) and We've All Missed the Point (Still) | #068

    It's a New Year (Again) and We've All Missed the Point (Still) | #068
    Jan 6 2025
    It's a new year, and Lou made a shirt. Lou had some difficulty reflecting on 2024, and connects it to his big-picture thinking. Lou had a bit of an existential therapy session and got into how the luxuries of today's society have dulled existence. Lou and Michael discuss what life is supposed to be. Lou is trying to get connected with his body more and be more intentional with presence. Michael opens up about his desire to be more social. OUR PHONES ARE RUINING US EVERY MINUTE.

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    48 mins
  • Let's Talk About Our Dynamic and You Don't Know Us Like That | #067

    Let's Talk About Our Dynamic and You Don't Know Us Like That | #067
    Dec 23 2024
    Lou and Michael discuss their dynamic, relationship, communication style and everything else. They discuss comments, engagement, and the idea that listeners know them intrinsically. All of this is sparked by a message received on Patreon... Shoutout to Nikki. We love you.

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    51 mins
  • Lonely Fat Kid With a Neck Tattoo | #066

    Lonely Fat Kid With a Neck Tattoo | #066
    Dec 16 2024
    Lou and Michael hammer out a little misunderstanding. Lou is checking in with his parts in a new way with new intention. Michael is still addicted to validation. Lou is struggling to come to terms with the parts of his father that live within him. Michael opens up about his childhood and his disbelief that he deserves love. Michael looks back on his last relationship.

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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • A Floating Task List and Struggling To Be | #065

    A Floating Task List and Struggling To Be | #065
    Dec 9 2024
    Lou doesn't hate to be needed after all which ties into his main focus of being. Lou feels like he has to catch everything before it happens. Michael's ADHD has his to-do list floating around in the ether. Michael still prioritizes his external appearance over his internal growth. Lou and Michael compare their views on their phones affecting their presence. Michael talks about his past situationship that hurt him real bad.

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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • My Absent Father and Closing the Door (Or Not) | #064

    My Absent Father and Closing the Door (Or Not) | #064
    Dec 2 2024
    Lou can't believe what Michael is doing in therapy. Lou saw his dad for the first time in four years... unplanned. Lou recaps his relationship with his father. Michael is coming to terms with loving his family but not necessarily liking them. Lou and Michael debate grief before discussing cutting people out of your life and closing the door on relationships. We finally figure out why Michael won't close the door.

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    54 mins