SWM 138 - BDSM Survey Results. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

During July and a bit of August, we ran a survey about people’s BDSM experiences. Depending on who you ask, it was either extensive or just dipping our toes into the topic. In the end, we received over 1,000 complete responses from a wide range of couples, some for whom BDSM is part of their daily life, others who were engaging in BDSM activities didn’t think what they were doing qualified, others who wished they were doing such things but didn’t know how to start, and those who thought it was disgusting that I even considered asking questions about such a topic.

or the last three weeks, I’ve spent evenings and weekends digging through the data, coding it, doing pivot tables, building charts, running correlation formulas, and more, trying to get what I can out of it. It’s aptly called data mining because often it feels like sifting through a lot of rocks and dirt just to try and find a nugget of something valuable contained.

Today, I’m going to share what I found.

• K7Fit - 14 Day Energy Challenge
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• Marriage Coaching
• Arousal Non-Concordance
• Interested in a Christian BDSM forum/resource? Click here.

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SWM 137 - Why we don't spank our children. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

Last week, Gary Thomas posted an article on his substack on the topic of discipline vs. punishment—not taking a stance but rather offering it up as a controversial conversation starter. Reading it made me curious about something—does your view of hell change your parenting approach? After all, if God is our example, and you believe that hell is eternal punishment, does that then lend to a more heavy-handed approach to parenting versus someone who believes that hell is an act of mercy?

I posted that question in our forum, and it then led to a discussion on using physical punishment on children. I spent a fair bit of time in the last week or two writing on that thread, and so I thought I’d repurpose it here for those who might be curious about how we raised our children.

We, Christina and I, don’t believe hell is eternal torture. We don’t believe such a view is in keeping with the Bible. We grew up in a denomination that taught it was, and it was one of the reasons we left because the doctrine couldn’t stand up to either biblical scrutiny or logic as we saw it. If you want to know why and/or argue that stance, I fully welcome you to read the post What happens when you die? That’s not the point of this post.

The point of this post is to share why we don’t spank our children, and now that my children are growing up into adults, what the outcome of such a choice has been.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Gary Thomas' article - Discipline vs Punishment (Substack)
• What happens when you die? (Post)
• Spanking and Child Development: We Know Enough Now To Stop Hitting Our Children (Study)
• Spanking and Child Outcomes: Old Controversies and New Meta-Analyses (Study)
• The Research on Spanking and Its Implications for Intervention (PDF)

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June 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Wife thinks she has to be mean to our children
• Golden showers (again)
• Wife can’t decide if she loves me or not
• Just because you’re experienced, doesn’t mean you’re qualified

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• SWM 029 - Fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives
• BDSM Survey

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