• FREEDOM!!
    Jul 4 2024

    Happy United States Independence Day! In honor of our country celebrating its freedom, Heather and Antwan celebrate the Freedom and feeling of life WITHOUT a narc in your home. Listen in as the differences between living with a narc partner and being free of narc abuse are detailed, explored, and celebrated!

    Encouragement Corner:

    "Don't speak negative aabout yourself; your body doesn't know the difference. Words are powerful. Change the way you speak about yourself and it'll change your life. What you were not changing you were also choosing." -Bruce Lee

    Freedom by Jon Batiste

    Want to hear more of Heather's story? Check out her book A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, Her Narcissist, His Trap.

    Want to share your story? Send us a message to heatherb@boormancounseling.com

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    58 mins
  • Understanding Trauma and EMDR
    May 31 2024

    Join Heather & Antwan as therapist Heather shares the theory and impact of trauma on the brain and body. Then dive in as they discuss EMDR (one effective therapy to recover from trauma), from both the practitioner and the patient perspectives!

    (Heather would also like to apologize for sounding so forceful and angry in the intro! Not sure what was going on there - I felt fine. LOL!)

    Mentioned in this episode:

    The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

    EMDRIA

    Encouragement Corner:

    "You gotta resurrect the deep pain within you and give it a place to live that's not within your body. Let it live in art. Let it live in writing. Let it live in music. Let it be devoured by building brighter connections. Your body is not a coffin for pain to be buried in. Put it somewhere else."
    by ehimeora

    This week's listening:

    The Abyss by Dax

    Want to learn more? Read Heather's book "A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, Her Narcissist, His Trap"

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    1 hr and 1 min
  • GreyStoning
    May 14 2024

    What is the greatest weapon to deflate a narc? A Grey Stone. While it isn't easy, it's simple and an in credibly effective tool when trying to disentangle from the narcissist in your life. Listen in as Antwan and Heather discuss Greystoning: what it is, how to do it, why it works!

    Encouragement Corner:

    "Don't allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence." - unknown

    "Juliana Calm Down" by the Chicks.

    Want to learn more? Read Heather's story and tips in her latest book, "A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, Her Narcissist, His Trap"

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    59 mins
  • The Narc Playbook - Discard
    Apr 21 2024

    It's the final chapter of the Narc Playbook! This week we talk discard: what is it? when does it happen? what does it look like?

    Mentioned in the episode:

    "Manipulated" by H.G. Tudor

    Encouragement Corner:

    "I always thought there was something romantic about fighting for someone. About winning them back. Eventual happiness. But as I sit here with stones in my chest where hope used to lie, I have come to the realization that there is nothing lovely about having to continuously convince someone to love you." -S.L.

    Song of the Week:
    "Last Strike" by Polo G

    Want to learn more? Read Heather's Story filled with information and experiences of narcissism:

    "A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, Her Narcissist, His Trap"

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    1 hr and 5 mins
  • ARE there two sides to every story?
    Apr 5 2024

    "There are two sides to every story" "It takes two to tango" "Nothing is ever black and white"

    These common colloquialisms are . . . well . . . common. But do they apply to abuse? ARE there actually two sides? Is a situation ever black and white?

    We're going to emphatically say NO. What effect does it have on victims when they are told there are two sides to every story? How can we tell who is the victim and who is the narcissist? Listen in as Heather and Antwan share their thoughts about believing victims, sparked by a real world situation in which someone responded to Heather's book with "there are two sides to every story."

    Encouragement Corner:

    "The truth is simple until you try to explain it." -unknown

    Song of the Week:

    "Middle Fingers" by MISSIO

    Want to learn more? Read Heather's Story filled with information and experiences of narcissism:

    "A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, Her Narcissist, His Trap"

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    52 mins
  • The Narc Playbook - Devaluing
    Mar 29 2024

    Ready for another chapter of the Narc Playbook? This week we reflect on many of the strategies they use to Devalue their victims. From gaslighting to physical threats, body language to lies, we're sharing their playbook so others can be better armed to defend themselves against these gross and abusive tactics.

    Encouragement Corner:

    "The sheep will spend its entire life fearing the wolf, only to be eaten by the shepherd." (African Proverb)

    Song of the Week:
    "To Be a Man (Mega Remix)" by Dax

    References:

    Confusion to Clarity by Helena Knowlton

    "Learn to Recognize 26 Covert Abuse Tactics" by Helena Knowlton

    Gaslight the movie

    Want to learn more? Read Heather's Story filled with information and experiences of narcissism:

    "A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, Her Narcissist, His Trap"

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    1 hr and 10 mins
  • The Narc Playbook - Lovebombing
    Mar 15 2024

    Heather's flying solo on this episode to talk more in depth about lovebombing. What are the strategies narc's use to reel you in and keep you on the hook? How can you tell the difference between typical early relationship romance and the narc lovebomb? Listen in as Heather deep dives into the shallow and often effective Lovebombing chapter of the Narc Playbook.

    Encouragement Corner:

    "Once you've been bamboozled by a narcissist, you'll be forced to view everyone as a narcissist until proven innocent." -unknown

    Song of the Week - Gaslight by Snow Tha Product

    Read more about lovebombing in Heather's newest book "A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, Her Narcissist, His Trap"

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    41 mins
  • Faux Co-Parenting
    Mar 8 2024

    "Co"-Parenting with a narc just doesn't happen. Instead we faux co-parent. In this episode Heather & Antwan consider several of the factors that contribute to the challenges of faux co-parenting and provide some suggestions on ways to cope.

    Encouragement Corner:

    "Only those who truly care about you can hear your when you're quiet." -Unknown

    For the Playlist:
    "The Cave" by Mumford & Sons

    Heather's favorite verse:
    Make your siren's call
    and sing all you want
    I will not hear what you have to say
    Cause I need freedom now
    And I need to know how
    to live my life as it's meant to be.

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    39 mins