I am so excited and honored to have Terry Hargrave, Ph.D. and Sharon Hargrave, M.A. on the Still Becoming Podcast. I had the honor of being trained by them in their model: Restoration Therapy. I respect them clinically, and I love them personally. They are wise, experienced, and so relatable. Terry and Sharon take difficult concepts in marriages and break them down into actionable insights and behavior changes. They have a new book out today! Their new book : The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself.

Terry Hargrave, Ph.D. and Sharon Hargrave, M.A. are nationally recognized for their work in founding and developing Restoration Therapy and RelateStrong. Terry has authored over 35 professional articles and sixteen books including 5 Days to a New Self (co-authored with Sharon Hargrave). He is a former professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Theological Seminary and his work has been featured on ABC News 20/20, Good Morning America and CBS Early Morning. Sharon formerly served as Executive Director of Pepperdine University’s Boone Center for the Family, works with program development, and was an affiliate faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary. She specialized in working with conflicted couples, leadership relationships and intergenerational issues. Both are licensed marriage and family therapists and have worked with individuals, couples and families for over 35 years.

https://www.restorationtherapytraining.com/

SharonHargrave.com

The Mindful Marriage- Amazon.com

These short guided meditations are ones I wish existed. They are topical, easy to follow, and made to feel therapeutic. They are short and combined with very calming music.

This is a short meditation for the holiday season. Hopefully it can be a quiet moment away for you during this season, however it lands for you.

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This week's Mental Health Check-In is about preparing for the holidays from a mental health and emotional health perspective. We often prepare in so many ways for this season, but rarely for our hearts, minds, souls, and frankly our mental health. We will talk about different topics ranging from boundaries to grief. Unfortunately I can't cover every topic is a short episode, but I hope this episode will be validating and start your own conversation with yourself.

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Conversation with Sarah E. Westfall

The Way of Belonging

Episode # 135

I am so excited to have author Sarah E. Westfall on the Still Becoming Podcast. In this interview Sarah invites her into her unique lens on the topic of belonging. We discuss the common longing to belong, the desire for "withness," and my favorite part of her book and this conversation: "Belonging is not something to attain, but someone to become."

This is a tender and insightful conversation. We touch faith, grief, God seeing us, and belonging. I can't wait for you to hear this interview!

Sarah E. Westfall is a writer, speaker, and host of the Human Together podcast. Her previous work includes serving as director of community for online writing groups and as a student development professional on college campuses. She has been published in RELEVANT, Fathom Mag, and (in)courage. Sarah lives in Indiana with her husband, Ben, and four sons.

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These short guided meditations are ones I wish existed. They are topical, easy to follow, and made to feel therapeutic. They are short and combined with very calming music.

In a world that is loud, busy, chaotic, and hurting, it can feel difficult to create a moment of space to breathe. It can also be hard to feel grounded and at home in your body with so much stress surrounding you. This is a meditation I have done in session with clients. I hope it is a calming exhale for your day.

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𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐒𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞⁣⁣⁣⁣

Conversation with Drew Jackson

Uncertainty, Becoming, and Poetry

Episode # 133

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I am so honored and excited to have poet, speaker, public theologian, and author Drew Jackson on the Still Becoming Podcast. This interview is one of my favorite conversations I've ever had on the podcast. Drew invites us into looking at life, uncertainty, faith, mental health, political acts and more through the lens of poetry. The lens of poetry, as he describes it, is one that we can all practice applying in our own ways to reconnect with where we are, how we feel, what we believe, and what we need. Through this deep and thoughtful conversation Drew shares some of his own journey as well as his own insights through his process of writing and grappling with questions, uncertainty, faith, and his own journey of becoming. Drew's wisdom creates such an expansive space. Finally we talk about Drew's words as a model for living, “When I forget beauty, poetry is there to invite me to slow down and notice the small blossoms of God’s new creation breaking through. When I become numb to heartache, poetry brings me back in touch with the tears of the world.” We begin this interview with Drew reading one of his beautiful new poems. We end this conversation with a moving description of how Drew's mom and his wife have each impacted his own becoming. I can't wait for you to hear this conversation.

Drew Jackson is a poet, speaker, and public theologian. He is author of God Speaks Through Wombs: Poems on God’s Unexpected Coming and Touch the Earth: Poems on The Way. His work has appeared in Oneing from the Center for Action and Contemplation, The Isolation Journals with Suleika Jaouad, Made for Pax, The Journal from the Centre for Public Christianity, Fathom Magazine, and other publications.

Drew received his B.A. in Political Science from the Univ. of Chicago and his M.A. in Theology from Fuller Theological Seminary. He currently works as the Director of Mission Integration for the Center for Action and Contemplation, and lives in Brooklyn, NY with his wife and daughters.

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https://drewejackson.com/

https://www.instagram.com/d.jacksonpoetics

This month's Mental Health Check-In follows along with my current newsletter series called Therapy Notes: Small Bits of Wisdom from Inside the Room. Head over to the link below, or my website, to join in at my newsletter. It's my favorite place to create and connect.

About the series : Therapy Notes swill offer insights I wish I could pass out for free (here goes), things that help me in my life, and certainly things I wish I’d known before I became a therapist. Scroll back through all of them if you are new here!

Therapy is both an art form and a collection of knowledge. Much of this knowledge is gleaned from the clinical research that informs the science of the field. However, the kitchen table version, simplified down to accessible takeaways, is where I see the most effective help. I hope this series will offer some wisdom from the practice of therapy. My own definition of wisdom is: knowledge you can actually use.

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This is a re-release of a Mental Health Check-In episode for those of us who are ending summer and moving into the business of a new school year, or an approaching Fall with work commitments. We are talking about the myth of balance, and how much shame an unrealistic idea of balance can produce in our lives. In this short episode we will identify why this myth isn't helpful, and how to think about ordering our lives instead. We will explore the ideas of prioritization, values, boundaries, and permission as a replacement for the pressure that "balance" produces. I hope this episode is validating, freeing, and encouraging. For more Still Becoming find Monica at ⁠⁠monicadicristina.com⁠⁠, and on Instagram: ⁠⁠@monicadicristina⁠⁠.

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