Main Points:

· Understand the goal-reaching process and what makes goals happen

· Picture representation of goals for the coming year

· Construct the boards for optimum effectiveness

· Well-constructed boards that are ecological, align with values and Include 5 major areas of a person’s life: faith, fitness, family, friends, financial

· Eyes move easily around

· These work like magic

· You can create anything you want and do if you are willing to do the dream and do the work

1st know what you want: written and date-specific

A goal is a picture attached to a feeling: a feeling of already having achieved it.

We think in three different ways –experience is made up of VAKAG

The more senses involved the more likely the goal will manifest

The visual channel goes into the future – be able to see yourself reading the desired outcome

Movie, dissociated vs associated

Write goals down – use all three senses

Success = balance

Anyone can make a lot of money by working 14-16 hours a day and being focused at the expense of other areas of life.

Success is achieved when a person achieves their desired goals in a balanced

Desire, faith expectancy – in every desire is the seed of its manifestation

Do the work (be involved in the process)

Have faith that the desire will be reached

Goal questions: what skills do I have; what skills do I need?; how do I get the skills that I need?

Goals: decide what you want, give it attention, take feedback, effortless, expect

Does not achieve – feedback, adjust – may not know the bigger picture

Trust the details will be handled.

Give yourself a periodic reward

Closely timed

Understand what motivates you – what are you getting from this?

Divine discontent

Don’t get ready – get started

When reaching a goal – set a new one at the point of fulfillment

Falling short of a goal is not failure, only feedback. Many successful people don’t reach goals consistently. Set high goals to have greater achievement

Peak performance

3 peak principles of high achievement – John Noe

The boards

5 areas

Few words

Flowers add life

Appeals to you

Relationships – couples

You may have to override the organization in your mind

Sparkle – Jewelry

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What is Imposter syndrome? Explaining away your accomplishments and success and doubting your abilities

1. What are common examples of imposter syndrome?

2. How can you assess if you have imposter syndrome Take the quiz:

Do you chalk your success up to luck, timing, or computer error?
Do you believe that if I can do it, anyone can?

Do you agonize over small flaws in your work?

Are you crushed by even constructive criticism, seeing it as evidence of your ineptness?

When you succeed, do you feel like you fooled them again?

Do you worry that it’s a matter of time before you’re found out?

3. What are some statements or excuses often made by people suffering from imposter syndrome?

4. Where does I.S. come from?

5. Mastery vs Performance – Dweck.

6. What are some NLP Techniques used to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

Conflict of identities, Belief changes, trauma processes, auditory swishes for neg. Self-talk. Anchoring and resource anchoring, changing the history of a problem (anchoring), reframing, modeling (understanding the model of success in your field,) meta programs, Foreground, background process - create a strong association between what is most important in the person’s awareness (foreground) and something that they are not attending to (background).

7. Bandura curve – 1st part, beliefs of capability; 2nd part beliefs of identity.

8. In time/ through time

9. recap

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1. What is important about stories, and metaphors in communication? When someone studies the great communicators, past and present, they all use metaphors and analogies to illustrate their points.
Metaphors compare things that are less understandable to familiar things. They create new meanings, make complex ideas understandable, motivate interest, and influence ideas. They create images that people can understand rather than literal words

2. What is the difference between a story, metaphor, and an analogy? A simple story conveys a description of something. A metaphor communicates two or more levels of meaning. Using metaphors can deliver directly to the unconscious.

3. How do individual words represent our experience as metaphors? George Lakoff and Mark Johnson in their book, Metaphors We Live By state, that metaphor is pervasive in everyday life not just in language by also by thought and action. This is the concept system. It is metaphorical in nature. Our concepts structure how we perceive the world around us. Much of our language is metaphors. So we cannot get along by language alone. How we experience our everyday life is metaphorical. Communication is war. Communication is dance. Love is a journey, time is money, love is madness

4. As one of the most important and overlooked skills in communication, how can we get better at using them in everyday interactions as well as speeches? Listen to how you use words to describe things in your world. Listen to how others use words to describe their world. Look at situations – what are they like in unrelated areas? Be more intentional about listening to others. Deeper insight into people. Linking abstract ideas to concrete

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How do we break patterns?

Outcome, outcome, outcome

Remember, that in the NLP model, all experience has structure. When you explore and change the structure, your experience changes, the perception, meaning, and feeling. NLP creates specific changes rather than random, trial-and-error changes. It changes things by adding resources, not taking away anything.

Our experience and patterns are organized on a hierarchy of neurology from Environment, Behavior, Capability, Belief/Value, Identity, and Spiritual. Each level organizes the level underneath it. Changes at a higher level will change something underneath it but not necessarily the other way around. It is important to understand what logical level a change needs to take place for the change to be effective and long-lasting. The neuro-levels are important because they are part of a unified field that includes yourself, others' observer positions, and past present, and future. Patterns can be caused at a behavioral level, cap, belief, or identity. Interestingly, people are aware of the patterns they run (or not) but not aware of what causes them. Changing the cause at the root of the problem will create lasting change and have the change in all three primary channels.

6-step reframing behaviors, internal dialog, nail-biting, etc can be changed with parts negotiation unless it is on a higher logical level. the lower the level, the more immediate the results, and the higher, the longer the integration because it is unconscious. Anchoring can also change our states, and give us choices, and as a result, a pattern can change. If it works for a while and then comes back, you probably need a change at a higher logical level.

How do we change our beliefs?

Be aware that most people cannot do their own belief work because beliefs are submerged in our unconscious mind. It takes someone excellent at recognizing patterns, calibration, and asking questions to discover limiting beliefs.

The first step is knowing what belief to change. This is challenging since beliefs run in packs and are slippery, according to Robert Dilts. They are mostly unconscious, in systems with a core belief that is young and hidden. One approach is to look at the behavior and ask, what do I believe to do this? What do I see hear and feel? What happens just before I start the behavior? Understand what it does for us, the positive intent and the goal of the intention, what are counterexamples to the belief, and finally, what behavior I want to do and what would I have to believe to do that behavior. And then, of course, belief statements are simple, they are beliefs, not behaviors, and have no ecological downsides.

How do we communicate most effectively?

Simply by speaking to another’s understanding. We communicate the way we understand words. So people who are like us, understand us and people not like us don’t. It limits the number of people we can connect with and promotes a lot of misunderstanding and miscommunication.

The more we are like a person the more the understanding.

The skills to engage for excellence in communication: perceptual positions, calibration, sensory awareness, rapport (m and p) and to influence, and lead. Ask questions (curiosity), state management, and control over your own internal dialogue.

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This is a Podcast Short. It addresses the cycle of ups and downs that some people experience when building a business or learning something new. In the podcast, I tackle some of the challenges by using NLP session flow from creating a well-formed outcome to what to look for when modeling a mentor. I talk about the complexities of modeling, optimum strategies for success, the factors of genius, belief changes, and the Unified Field in NLP.

The short version:
· Outcome first! In all three primary channels.

· At what logical level does the change need to take place? Remember that behaviors are usually not behavioral issues but come from a lack of capability and limiting beliefs.

· If working in the land of beliefs – what is the behavior telling you? What would they have to believe to do the behaviors? What is the positive intention of the beliefs, both old and new? Is it a belief in capability or identity

· Future pace in all three primary channels.

· Changes, especially in belief/identity issues, are through-time processes.

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I’m receiving more and more requests from people to help them with their lack of ability to fall asleep, stay asleep, and get restful sleep. So that they can wake up rested. Sleep is difficult because of the things we keep track of or have to take care of.

Sleep is a big part of calming your nervous system to manage stress (EP 79).

Hosts discuss why people can’t fall asleep.

1. How does NLP help us when it comes to getting a good night's sleep? Strategies, routine, remove lights, avoid, light, screens, heavy foods, alcohol, caffeine.

2. Now that you have a routine in place, here are some tricks and techniques for the occasional stress we might experience.

1. Relax your body. Stretch calves, neck muscles, facial muscles. One technique is to tense your whole body and then let go.
2. TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE DOING TO FALL ASLEEP, STAY ASLEEP UNTIL I’M READY TO WAKE UP (unless there is danger or someone calls me)
3. Relax your jaw and your eyelids
4. Visualize a very relaxing scene, such as a lake with glass-like water, a beautiful landscape, the ocean on a calm day, a time when you were in nature and fell asleep. Use submodalities to adjust the color and movement, even the location. Experiment to see what causes your body to relax the most.
5. Counting seems to be popular. Here are some examples:
1, 2, 3, 4 – 2, 2, 3, 4 – 3, 2, 3, 4 and so on. Very monotonous but you have to think about it to keep track. Count backwards from 100. Also, see the numbers as you count.

6. Slow your breathing – you mentioned this last month.
7. See the word deeper and overwrite it over and over.
8. Some people like very cool to cold air temperatures. Sleep studies often have a person sleeping in 55-degree temps.

3. NLP techniques to help you: submodalities, mental lockers, change internal dialog, 6-step reframe, circle of excellence. Change your mental channel like a TV channel.

4. Recap the pattern:

1. Develop a routine that excludes screen time, lights, TV, alcohol, and heavy foods but includes, low light, relaxation, and feeling comfortable. The Circle of Excellence.
2. TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE DOING TO FALL ASLEEP, STAY ASLEEP UNTIL I’M READY TO WAKE UP (unless there is danger or someone calls me)
3. Use a counting technique or the lockers and/or adjust submodalities
4. Make sure your body is relaxed.
5. Slow your breathing and make it slightly deeper.
6. Fall asleep. Ta-da! And you will. Before you know it you are waking up in the morning!

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Morgan recently started a coaching and training business that focuses on helping corporate leaders, professionals, and entrepreneurs control and reduce stress. This episode covers the problem with stress in society, what stress is, how it affects our body, and how to use NLP and other processes to reduce stress.

It is estimated that 75-90% of all health problems are caused by or related to stress.

Impacts: Damages neural pathways. Interferes with decision-making and judgment.
Suppresses the immune system. Strains the heart and other organs. Ages people prematurely. Not all stress is bad. It’s normal. The problem is prolonged stress.

NLP has a lot of tools for changing how we interpret and represent events in our minds.

• Outcomes
• SCORE
• Neurological Levels
• Submodality Changes
• Change Personal History
• Resource Anchoring
  Gratitude
• Reframing
• Separating Behavior from Intent – useful for anger and irritation toward others

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Podcast #78

1. What is the Score? The score is a process developed by Todd Epstein and Robert Dilts that creates an established pathway for change. It is part of the unified field theory developed by Robert Dilts. It is nestled between defining the problem state SOAR (State, operator, results) and the TOTE (test, operate, test exit), checks and balances along the pathway.

2. What does the score do? It defines the smallest amount of information to produce a change. The S.C.O.R.E. Model enriches the Present State/Desired State description by adding simple distinctions. The letters represent Symptoms, Causes, Outcomes, Resources, and Effects. This is the minimum amount of information needed in any process of change or healing. It uses spatial anchoring.

3. What does SCORE stand for? Symptoms, causes, outcomes, effects, and resources. The S.C.O.R.E. Model uses the path between the present state and the desired state and the wisdom of the body to create change.

4. How does it work?

5. How can you use it and what can you use it with? Used as is and added a resource to the cause OR from the Cause use another process in NLP – reimprinting, reframing, belief change, timeline, etc. Use it to establish a clean clear outcome and ensure it is in the body.

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