In this episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, Dr. Stephanie Holmes, an autism researcher, life coach, and ordained minister, joins us to discuss the unique dynamics of neurodiverse marriages. Dr. Holmes brings her vast expertise and personal experience in navigating the challenges that couples face when one partner is on the autism spectrum. The conversation emphasizes understanding neurodiversity, the impact of late diagnoses on marriages, recognizing red flags, and practical advice for women feeling unheard or unloved in such relationships. Listeners will gain valuable insights into self-care, boundary-setting, and finding supportive communities within a Christian context.

• Understanding Neurodiversity

  • Explanation of neurodiverse and neurotypical terms.
  • Importance of recognizing different neurological wiring and its impact on relationships.

• Impact of Late Diagnosis

  • Effects of late autism spectrum diagnoses on marital relationships.
  • Historical context of autism diagnosis and its implications.

• Recognizing Red Flags

  • Identifying signs that a partner might be on the autism spectrum.
  • Need for reassessment for individuals diagnosed with ADHD before 2013.

• Challenges in Neurodiverse Marriages

  • Common struggles such as lack of emotional connection and communication issues.
  • Necessity for both partners to learn and adapt to each other's needs.

• Trauma and Neurodiverse Relationships

  • Understanding Trauma A (absence of good things) and Trauma B (presence of bad things) in neurodiverse marriages.
  • Impact of trauma on the neurotypical spouse and importance of addressing these issues.

• Counseling and Coaching

  • Benefits of coaching over traditional counseling for neurodiverse couples.
  • Importance of individual therapy and trauma work before starting couples work.

• Personal and Spiritual Growth

  • Encouraging women to set boundaries and seek self-care.
  • Finding identity and community support outside of the marriage.

• Final Advice

  • Practical tips for women feeling unheard or unloved in their relationships.
  • Recognizing and addressing the impact of a spouse's behavior on their well-being.