I love FI because it allows me to break the rules and live outside the norm. Like, no one has time for 40 years of traditional employment. But little did I realize I left one set of rules only to get caught up in another - the rules of personal finance.

For example, let's look at one popular idea, “spend less than you earn and invest the difference.” My friend Jeremy Schneider says this all the time and for the most part, he’s right. This is a great principle and one of the pillars of building wealth. But where we go wrong is when we get too fixated on a rule and let it box us in. Do we have to spend less than we earn…every year? No, we realize that is a silly idea. If you want to plan a year of travel, take off time to raise a newborn, or work on launching a business, that might be a year you spend more than you make…and that’s okay.

I’m not saying Jeremy hasn’t had a year where he’s spent more than he’s earned. Knowing him, I’m guessing he’s had a couple but sometimes these general guidelines create a limited mindset. Another example is the 4% rule. This one boxed me in for years making me think I needed to reach my FIRE number before I could retire.

I’ve been rethinking that a lot recently and one person who has impacted me is Diania Merriam. Through her 20s and early 30s, Diania worked in sales. In the midst of one of her peak earning years, she decided to take a 2-month sabbatical to walk 500 miles across northern Spain. A few years later, she quit that job entirely and retired from her corporate career at 33. Diania then founded the EconoMe Conference, a party about money. The conference wasn’t profitable the first few years but Diania didn’t care because she felt like organizing this event was her calling. She is the definition of rewriting the rule book which is why I wanted to have her on the show.

I’m hoping through her story, you identify a personal finance rule that might be limiting your thinking. We get into topics like how to get your employer to say yes to a sabbatical, getting comfortable leaving a high-paying job, right-sizing work, and more.

Key Takeaways:

• How to get your employer to say yes to a sabbatical
• Getting comfortable leaving a high-paying job
• Embracing an abundance mindset
• How to right-size your work
• Finding FI-lexbility

More of Diania:

EconoMe Conference: ​​https://economeconference.com/

Optimal Finance Daily: https://oldpodcast.com/optimal-finance-daily-podcast/

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While we still have a lot of work to do, I’m really glad we’ve made strides in closing the gender pay gap. Women's increased incomes have led to significant changes in household dynamics. More women are becoming the primary or even sole breadwinner for their family.

This change is great and has led to many positives for both men and women. However, our culture is still caught up in traditional gender roles, especially when it comes to money. Many people expect a man to be the primary breadwinner in a relationship. This leads to awkwardness, confusion and tension.

In today’s episode, we are going to talk about those feelings, especially from the lens of men. There is no better person to have this conversation with then my friend Ed Coambs. Ed is a financial therapist and has over 20 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and families experiencing a wide range of money-related distress.

In this conversation, we dive into topics such as overcoming your internal feelings about contributing less financially, managing money with your partner without feeding resentment, and responding to friends when they joke about the income disparity in your relationship.

A lot of juicy topics, so if you’re ready for it, I hope you enjoy my conversation with firefighter turned certified financial therapist…Ed Coambs.

Key Takeaways:

• What happens when your partner is making more than you
• Handling resentment when one partner makes significantly more money
• Managing your internal emotions when your significant other has the career spot light
• Understanding your money origin story
• Societal messaging about gender norms and money
• Responding to your friends make jokes

More of Ed:

www.healthyloveandmoney.com

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It’s one of the most hotly debated topics in personal finance…Roth or Traditional?

Some argue that the national debt almost guarantees higher taxes in the future and that you should choose Roth and pay your taxes now. Others argue that flexibility and low-earning retirement years should lead you to choose traditional. And of course, some “professionals” highlight that retirement accounts are a scam and you should be investing in their life insurance product to avoid taxes altogether…for the sake of this conversation, we are ignoring that one.

At the end of the day, we all know the correct answer…it depends. It wouldn’t be a controversial topic if there wasn’t nuance in the decision. Multiple factors make it a personalized decision for everyone.

In today’s episode, we dive deep into many of those factors to help you feel equipped to make this decision for your situation. To help me with this goal, I invited on my friend and CFP Rachael Camp.

Rachael recently appeared on the podcast in episode 143, so if you want to learn more about her story and her thoughts about work optionality, get that episode queued up.

In this conversation, we jump straight into it, debunking bad advice, sharing a rule of thumb to decide if Roth or Traditional is the right option for you, discuss how unique factors such as which state you live in, RMDs, and medical subsidies might impact your decision, and ultimately, a case for why this decision should be revisited every year.

So if you want to get deep into the weeds about Roth vs Traditional, this episode is for you. I hope you enjoy my conversation with the owner of Camp Wealth…Rachael Camp.

Key Takeaways:

• The math behind bad advice
• If taxes are bound to increase, how does that change our decision?
• A Roth or Traditional rule of thumb based on your tax bracket
• Changes in your life that might impact how you should be investing
• How and why to create flexibility in your retirement accounts
• A year-by-year approach to maximize your tax savings

More of Rachael:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CampWealth/videos

Website: https://www.rachaelcampwealth.com/

More of The Struggle is Real:

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