Episodes

  • When To Leave An Avoidant...

    When To Leave An Avoidant...
    Jan 13 2025
    Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-13-25&el=podcast Are you questioning whether to continue investing in a relationship with an avoidant partner? Learn the three essential steps to evaluate your situation and make the best decision for your happiness and growth. In today’s episode, Thais Gibson outlines a step-by-step approach to help you decide whether to stay with or leave an avoidant partner. By setting clear boundaries, focusing on personal growth, and assessing the other person’s willingness to grow, you’ll gain clarity and confidence in your decision. Listen now to discover actionable tools for navigating challenging dynamics and fostering healthier relationships. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Should You Stay or Leave? 00:00:47 – Signs of Losing Yourself in the Relationship 00:01:12 – The Three-Step Process for Decision-Making 00:02:45 – Key Question: Are They Willing to Do the Work? 00:05:08 – Setting Deadlines for Relationship Investment 00:07:30 – The Importance of Personal Growth During Evaluation 00:09:20 – Recognizing When the Needle Isn’t Moving 00:11:45 – Clarity and Confidence in Your Decision 00:13:50 – Evaluating Healthy Relationship Reciprocity 00:15:00 – Tools to Heal and Rebuild Self-Worth 00:17:45 – Final Thoughts: Leading by Example Follow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels! YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ --- #AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipDynamics #SecureAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    12 mins
  • How to Easily Spot A Secure Partner

    How to Easily Spot A Secure Partner
    Jan 10 2025
    Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses on relationship with avoidants, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-01-10-25&el=podcast Are you struggling to identify healthy relationship dynamics? Discover the five key traits of a securely attached partner and learn how to spot and nurture these qualities in your relationships. In today’s episode, Thais Gibson shares how to recognize the key traits of a securely attached partner, including emotional regulation, vulnerability, and the balance between independence and intimacy. Learn practical tools for identifying secure communication styles and fostering interdependence in your relationships. Listen now to discover actionable steps for spotting secure partners and becoming one yourself. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Introduction: Struggling to Find the Right Partner? 00:00:47 – Why Insecure Attachment Styles Are Common 00:01:12 – Positive Framing in Communication 00:02:45 – Working Through Challenges and Vulnerability 00:03:50 – The Power of Empathy and Emotional Validation 00:05:15 – Setting Boundaries While Validating Emotions 00:06:45 – Balancing Independence and Intimacy: Interdependence 00:08:14 – Avoiding Codependency and Counterdependency 00:10:22 – Self-Soothing vs. Co-Regulating with a Partner 00:12:07 – The Role of Needs in Conflict Resolution 00:14:00 – Final Thoughts: Becoming and Recognizing a Secure Partner Discover What Your Attachment Style is and How It Could Be Holding Your Relationships Back … Take Quiz Here 👉https://bit.ly/attachment-quiz-youtube Follow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Podcast - https://pod.link/1478580185 --- Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel for Your Daily Dose of Personal Growth and Relationship Transformations! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool?sub_confirmation=1 #AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipDynamics #SecureAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    10 mins
  • FEARFUL AVOIDANT: 11 Signs Your Attachment Trauma is Rooted in PARENTIFICATION

    FEARFUL AVOIDANT: 11 Signs Your Attachment Trauma is Rooted in PARENTIFICATION
    Jan 9 2025
    Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses on relationship with avoidants, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-09-25&el=podcast In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson explores the profound effects of parentification on attachment styles and adult relationships. Learn how being forced into a caregiver role as a child impacts your ability to set boundaries, trust others, and receive love as an adult. Listen now to discover practical tools for healing these patterns and reclaiming emotional freedom in your relationships. Do you feel burdened by always being the caregiver in your relationships? Discover how parentification affects your emotional health and learn to break free from these patterns to create balanced, fulfilling connections. Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Introduction to parentification and its impacts 00:01:30 - The two types of parentification: emotional and instrumental 00:04:50 - How parentification shapes adult attachment styles 00:08:10 - Signs of parentification in childhood 00:11:45 - Why parentification leads to over-giving and burnout 00:15:30 - Emotional patterns formed from unmet childhood needs 00:20:20 - The struggle to trust and accept love as an adult 00:24:00 - Common symptoms of being a parentified child 00:28:15 - Key steps to reprogram beliefs rooted in parentification 00:33:40 - Building balance between care for self and others 00:38:20 - Practical tools to heal and thrive in relationships 00:44:00 - Final insights and next steps for healing Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    52 mins
  • Fearful Avoidants Need THESE 3 Things to Connect After Conflict

    Fearful Avoidants Need THESE 3 Things to Connect After Conflict
    Jan 2 2025
    Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-02-25&el=podcast Struggling to reconnect with a fearful avoidant partner after a fight? Learn the three game-changing steps to rebuild trust, resolve conflict, and bring you closer than ever before. In this episode, Thais Gibson outlines the three essential steps fearful avoidants need to reconnect after conflict. Discover why validating feelings, offering transparency, and creating preventative strategies are key to rebuilding trust and deepening your bond. Watch now to learn how to transform conflict into a powerful opportunity for connection and lasting harmony. 00:00:00 - Introduction: 3 Steps Fearful Avoidants Need After Conflict 00:00:25 - Step 1: Why Validating Feelings is Critical 00:01:08 - How Validation Helps Fearful Avoidants Let Their Guard Down 00:02:00 - The Difference Between Validating Feelings vs. Behaviors 00:02:21 - Step 2: The Importance of Transparency and Context 00:03:42 - Why Understanding ‘Why’ Behind Behavior Builds Trust 00:04:00 - How Fearful Avoidants Use Hyper-Vigilance to Feel Safe 00:05:01 - Step 3: Strategies to Prevent Recurring Issues 00:05:50 - Why Preventative Strategies Create Reassurance 00:06:32 - Taking Action to Improve the Relationship 00:07:03 - How Conflict Can Bring You Closer, Not Drive You Apart 00:07:20 - Final Tips for Building Trust and Connection Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    10 mins
  • THESE Are the Top Triggers for An Anxious Partner (& How to Solve Them)

    THESE Are the Top Triggers for An Anxious Partner (& How to Solve Them)
    Dec 30 2024
    Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-30-24&el=podcast In this episode, co-hosts Mike and Thais Gibson dive deep into the world of relationship triggers, focusing on how they manifest for those with an anxious attachment style. Drawing from personal experiences as former fearful and dismissive avoidants, they share actionable insights on understanding and managing triggers like feeling excluded, hot-and-cold behavior, and unmet needs for soothing. Learn how core wounds shape our reactions, the importance of communication in fostering secure relationships, and why understanding your partner’s attachment style is key to creating a supportive connection. Whether you’re navigating these dynamics yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers practical advice for growth and healing. Plus, stay tuned for resources on rewiring attachment patterns to foster healthier connections. Timestamps; 00:00 - Intro 01:46 - Forgetting Important Events 07:42 - Projecting Love Languages 10:10 - When a Partner Has an Active Social Life Apart From Them 18:24 - Hot and Cold Behavior 26:55 - Communicating with Openness and Vulnerability 33:03 - Not Being Soothed By Your Partner When You Need Them 38:04 - If Someone Asks for Too Much 47:37 - Conclusion Join us for an engaging conversation filled with relatable stories, expert insights, and tools to help you thrive in your relationships Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    56 mins
  • An Avoidant Needs THIS To Resolve Conflict and Reconnect Immediately!

    An Avoidant Needs THIS To Resolve Conflict and Reconnect Immediately!
    Dec 26 2024
    Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-26-24&el=podcast In this insightful episode, we explore the unique needs of dismissive avoidants during and after conflict, revealing key strategies to foster reconnection and harmony. Discover how to transform conflicts from divisive moments into opportunities for deeper understanding and closeness, using tools like direct communication, positive reinforcement, and acts of service. Learn the art of "re-bonding" to restore trust and safety after disputes, and uncover why harmonious communication is essential for avoidants to open up. Whether you’re navigating these dynamics yourself or in a relationship with an avoidant, this episode offers practical advice to create stronger, more secure connections. Timestamps: 00:00:00 – Why Avoidants Shut Down During Conflict 00:00:18 – Key Needs of Avoidants After a Conflict 00:01:12 – The Role of Harmonious Communication 00:02:45 – Positive vs. Negative Conflict Dynamics 00:05:08 – Direct and Literal Communication Needs 00:06:00 – Rebonding: Acknowledgment and Appreciation 00:07:30 – Using Positive Reinforcement in Relationships 00:08:50 – Building Connection Through Lighthearted Activities 00:10:22 – Acts of Service as a Sign of Peace 00:11:45 – Validation and Encouraging Effort 00:13:50 – Healthy Communication Tools for Conflict Resolution 00:15:00 – Final Thoughts: Creating Deeper Connections Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    12 mins
  • THESE Are the Top Avoidant Triggers That Make Them Run Away

    THESE Are the Top Avoidant Triggers That Make Them Run Away
    Dec 23 2024
    Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-23-24&el=podcast In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike DiZio explore the inner world of dismissive avoidants, uncovering the core wounds and triggers that cause them to retreat in relationships. From the need for personal space and independence to fears of vulnerability and conflict, the duo breaks down common challenges dismissive avoidants face and provides actionable advice for fostering healthier connections. Through personal experiences and professional insights, this episode sheds light on how dismissive avoidants perceive intimacy, handle communication, and navigate criticism. Whether you’re a dismissive avoidant yourself or looking to better understand a loved one, this episode offers invaluable tools for empathy, understanding, and building secure, lasting relationships. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:17 - Things That Cause Dismissive Avoidants to Run 04:33 - When Your Need For Space Was Disrespected 13:29 - Excessive Need for Communication / Clinginess 16:57 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 32:49 - Setting Boundaries and Self-Regulation 22:08 - Assumptions on How They're Feeling 30:00 - Feeling Controlled By a Partner 41:15 - Too Much Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Closeness 51:37 - Conflict and Criticism 1:03:54 - Conclusion Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • THESE 4 Triggers Cause Fearful Avoidants to Run from Relationships

    THESE 4 Triggers Cause Fearful Avoidants to Run from Relationships
    Dec 19 2024
    Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-19-24&el=podcast It’s time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-19-24&el=podcast Why do fearful avoidants sometimes pull away from relationships when things seem to be going well? In this episode, we uncover the four core triggers that cause fearful avoidants to run and explore the psychology behind their reactions. Whether you're navigating these dynamics yourself or supporting a loved one, you'll learn actionable strategies to address these challenges, communicate effectively, and create healthier connections. Join us to understand how to rewire painful patterns, balance emotional safety with vulnerability, and transform relationships through mindful tools rooted in neuroplasticity. Listen, reflect, and take a step closer to secure attachment and fulfilling connections. Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    18 mins