Where is the joy in our lives? Where is the enjoyment in our lives? What is holding us back from joy? Michelle and Sarah explore what keeps us from fully embracing joy in our lives. They dive deep into the cultural narrative that prioritizes achievement, productivity, financial stability, and a woman’s responsibilities over joy and creativity. Let’s reclaim joy and redefine success.

We all want limitless pleasure. Join Michelle and Sarah as they delve into what holds us back from fully enjoying our sexuality. Picking up from the myths of virginity discussed in episode twelve, they examine the social burdens and societal constraints that shape our sexuality, sexual identities, and experiences. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that empowers you to embrace your pleasure!

We would love to hear from you! Was there anything that particularly shocked you? What do you think of virginity now after hearing all this? Were we spot on or totally off base? Comment here or email us: thingswedonttalkabt@gmail.com Sources: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20170315-the-invention-of-heterosexuality

'The Pleasure Gap' by Katherine Rowland published in 2020 https://www.researchgate.net/publication/247335877_Female_orgasm_Myths_facts_and_controversies

Almost everything we’ve been taught about virginity is a lie. Join Michelle and Sarah as they unpack the origins of this word, the myths that persist, and the social burdens that comes with these lies. From the stigma to the impact of virginity on relationships, sexuality, and self-identity, Michelle and Sarah have the most honest conversation that will encourage you to rethink your own beliefs and maybe even empower you to take ownership of your sexuality.

We would love to hear from you! Was there anything that particularly shocked you? What do you think of virginity now after hearing all this? Were we spot on or totally off base? Comment here or email us: thingswedonttalkabt@gmail.com

Sources: https://www.etymonline.com/word/virgin#etymonline_v_7817 https://www.etymonline.com/word/vestal https://www.sutterhealth.org/health/teens/sexual/defining-virginity#:~:text=%E2%80%9CVirgin%E2%80%9D%20originated%20from%20the%20Greek,small%20children%20and%20wild%20animals https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22718-hymen

If ever an episode needed a warning for explicit content, this one is it!! Michelle and Sarah dive deep into the complex world of the word "bitch," from its historical roots as a mere descriptor for a female dog to its evolution as a derogatory term and into its modern reclamation for female empowerment. What does it mean to call someone a "bitch" today? Is it ever acceptable, or does it always carry a negative connotation? Michelle and Sarah unpack the nuances of this controversial term.

We would love to hear from you! Were we spot on or totally off base? Do you use the word bitch? Comment here or email us: thingswedonttalkabt@gmail.com

Sources: https://www.etymonline.com/word/bitch https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/184484/etymology-origin-behind-using-bitching-in-a-positive-sense#:~:text=bitching%20(adj.),in%20some%20inverted%20sense Meredith Brooks Song - Bitch 1997

https://open.spotify.com/track/3i6qNxyVgIdUZTTi5m25EM?si=ruF_a4J1Q6GjpNSoXd2ePQ Netflix - History of Swear Words

Lucille Bogan - Till the Cows Come Home (WARNING VERY EXPLICIT!)

https://open.spotify.com/track/6lYqtOrLowtnslyKpyJQqe?si=qPkVKjeLSlmv9TvNBMCEWw

Correction: In this episode Sarah says bitch is one of the 7 dirty words George Carlin recites you can't say on television. However, this is not one of the words. Nevertheless, bitch was not used on television until 1979 and is still regulated by the FCC's rules of obscenity.

If you’ve ever said dating sucks, you are not alone! Michelle and Sarah talk about their dating misadventures, the struggles with navigating online profiles, and the often-unspoken pressures they face. From awkward first dates to the search for genuine connection, they explore the unspoken rules and emotional rollercoasters that come with trying to find partnership and connection.

We would love to hear from you and your dating experiences! What do you think of the pitfalls and triumphs we shared? Were we spot on or totally off base? Comment here or email us: thingswedonttalkabt@gmail.com

Sources:

Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie https://www.chimamanda.com/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CiA2E-DpAe6/?igsh=MTJybDlrbGgzNGpz

Just Be Nice - if you're a woman you’ve 100% heard this before. Michelle and Sarah talk about how being told to be nice limits women as well as all the rules we are taught from a young age but never talk about - rules shaped by misogyny and societal expectations. They share how these rules have impacted their lives and explore the “what ifs” of what life could’ve been if they hadn’t been so constrained. As always we would love to hear from you: email: thingswedonttalkabt@gmail.com

Sources:

Untamed by Glennon Doyle https://momastery.com/

Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie https://www.chimamanda.com/

Athlete Ilona Maher https://www.instagram.com/ilonamaher

Reel Sarah mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C9o2ocWMyic/?igsh=OW93cGJjdnR3ZGtm

Last week we spoke about the practical strategies of finding calm, comfort, and inspiration amidst life’s challenges and the very difficult times we find ourselves in. This conversation left us wondering why and how these strategies work? So we delved into the science of it all, and now we're back to share the science with you. Find out why our favorite practices work. We're here for you. Reach out at thingswedonttalkabt@gmail.com

Sources: https://e360.yale.edu/features/ecopsychology-how-immersion-in-nature-benefits-your-health#:~:text=These%20studies%20have%20shown%20that,reduce%20anxiety%2C%20and%20improve%20mood https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/biophilia#:~:text=Biophilia%2C%20which%20literally%20translates%20to,such%20as%20animals%20and%20plants https://healthyline.com/pages/health-benefits-negative-ions#:~:text=One%20natural%20producer%20of%20negative,revitalized%20when%20after%20taking%20one https://www.physio-pedia.com/Vagus_Nerve#:~:text=gastrointestinal%20secretions.%20..-,Course,to%20the%20internal%20jugular%20vein https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-happens-to-your-body-during-the-fight-or-flight-response https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/shame#:~:text=Reviewed%20by%20Psychology%20Today%20Staff,or%20inadequate%20as%20a%20result https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3505409/

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Welcome to this enlightening episode where we delve into the depths of finding calm, comfort, and inspiration amidst life’s challenges and the very difficult times we find ourselves in. This episode explores practical strategies and heartfelt stories that illuminate paths to personal growth and resilience. Whether you’re facing uncertainty, struggling with inner doubts, or simply seeking a spark of positivity, this conversation offers valuable tools to help you shine through adversity.

We're here for you. Reach out at thingswedonttalkabt@gmail.com

Binaural Beats We Like:

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