Matt Bair and Ryan Hedrick discuss unrealistic expectations and how they can mess things up for caregivers and those in recovery. They share their own experiences with unrealistic expectations, like thinking relapse isn't part of recovery or that someone gets better immediately after they stop using or drinking. They also discuss the misconception that relationships improve instantly. This episode is a must-listen if you're new to recovery. Matt and Ryan know recovery is a long journey with ups and downs, so sit back and listen. We're glad you're on this journey with us.

Discussions and timestamps:

4:07 - 7:00 - The recovering addict must decide they are done using. When they surrender, amazing things happen. The caregiver can offer support, but the caregiver's loved one must make that decision.

7:02 - 8:50 - Recovery is a journey. Restoring yourself means completely tearing down the old and rebuilding anew. The "Pink Cloud" is a real experience in recovery, bringing both highs and challenges.

9:03 - 11:22 - The guys talk about past episodes on boundaries because revisiting the past can be a major obstacle for caregivers and their loved ones in recovery. If you're having a hard time with your loved one and think they should be further along, try to be patient and give them grace as they do their best.

11:26 - 13:38 - Recovery has no finish line. Some people think that if someone isn't using and goes to meetings, they are cured. Caregivers should notice positive changes in their loved one's behavior and actions if they are recovering, but they should know that they will never be fully cured. Addiction is a spiritual disease that needs ongoing care and principles.

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