Summary

In this episode Rita dives deep into the powerful and transformational concept of the Drama Triangle. She explores how unconscious cycles of victimhood, rescuing, and bullying hold us back in relationships, business, and our internal dialogue. Through personal anecdotes, coaching examples, and actionable tools, Rita guides listeners on how to shift from these disempowered roles into the Empowerment Triangle, where we become creators, coaches, and challengers. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to release blame, shame, and self-sabotaging patterns to step into radical responsibility and joy.

Timestamps

0:00 - Welcome and Introduction
1:30 - Why the Drama Triangle Matters: Breaking Dysfunctional Cycles
3:45 - The Weight of Negative Self-Talk and Stories We Carry
8:30 - Rita’s Journey: From Lack and Scarcity to Abundance
13:10 - The Drama Triangle Explained: Victim, Rescuer, Bully
17:55 - Coaching Example: A Mother and Daughter Dynamic in the Drama Triangle
22:30 - How Victimhood and Rescuing Play Out in Our Relationships
29:30 - Negative Internal Dialogue: Blame, Judgments, and Self-Sabotage
36:40 - Conscious Choice: Shifting from Reacting to Responding
38:00 - The Empowerment Triangle: Co-Creator, Coach, Challenger
41:20 - Using Challenges as Opportunities for Growth
46:00 - Leadership Skills and Emotional Mastery
50:30 - Advancing Consciousness: Healing Your Patterns to Heal the World
53:00 - Final Takeaways and Action Steps

Key Takeaways

1. The Drama Triangle Roles:
   • Victim: Feeling powerless and stuck.
   • Rescuer: Overstepping boundaries to "fix" others.
   • Bully: Judging, shaming, or blaming self or others.
2. The Empowerment Triangle:
   • Shift from victim to creator (ownership and solutions).
   • Move from rescuer to coach (support without enabling).
   • Transform from bully to challenger (seeing challenges as opportunities for growth).
3. The Power of Conscious Choice:
   • Pause, breathe, and reflect when triggered.
   • Respond instead of reacting: E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome).
4. Self-Awareness Leads to Freedom:
   • Notice where you show up as victim, rescuer, or bully in your relationships and self-talk.
   • Take radical responsibility for your patterns and choices.
5. Growth Heals the World:
   • Every time you shift into empowerment, you heal yourself and contribute to the collective consciousness.

Ready to break free from blame and step into your empowered self? I’m now accepting applications for 1:1 coaching! Head over to my website at https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com to book a call and take the first step toward radical transformation.

Let’s grow together, one empowered choice at a time. 🌟

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of The Stop Bending Over Podcast, Rita explores the transformative power of self-awareness, integrity, and radical honesty in leadership and personal growth. She shares personal stories about standing in integrity, taking responsibility, and reframing negative meanings assigned to life experiences. The focus is on how shifting perceptions and embracing accountability can lead to breakthroughs in business and personal life. Practical steps and reflective questions are provided to help listeners embody their highest potential and take quantum leaps toward success.

In This Episode:

1. The importance of integrity and radical honesty in leadership and life.
2. How blaming and complaining keep you stuck in the Drama Triangle.
3. The role of meaning-making in shaping your reality.
4. Practical steps for reframing negative stories and stepping into accountability.
5. Embodying your highest self to achieve quantum leaps in growth and success.

Practical Steps:

• Identify where you are assigning negative meaning.
• Reframe limiting beliefs with empowering perspectives.
• Take ownership of your results as proof of your commitments.
• Develop a daily habit of pausing and asking, "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"

Reflection Questions for Listeners:

1. Where in your life are you blaming or complaining?
2. How can you reclaim your power by taking responsibility for your role in the situation?
3. What old story about yourself or someone else is holding you back?
4. What would it look like to let go of that story?
5. How can you embody the next iteration of your highest self today?

Resources:

• Journal Prompt: "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"
• Journal Prompt: "Where am I holding onto an old story about myself or someone else, and what would it look like to let that story go?"
• For coaching inquiries: Visit [Rita's Website] or schedule a call.

Timestamps:

• [00:00] - Opening quote by George Bernard Shaw: The true joy of life.
• [01:02] - Introduction and personal updates.
• [03:21] - The significance of radical honesty and taking responsibility.
• [05:45] - Recognizing triggers and reframing negative experiences.
• [09:35] - Choosing higher integrity to unlock business and personal growth.
• [12:39] - Sisyphus metaphor: Breaking free from repetitive cycles.
• [15:04] - Practical steps to embody integrity and accountability.
• [19:45] - Bridging differences with compassion and shared values.
• [24:34] - Visualizing and stepping into your highest self.
• [29:17] - Shifting from "hard" stories to empowered mindsets.
• [31:42] - Closing reflections, journal prompts, and coaching opportunities.

Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into what it really means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your dreams. She talks about how patterns of people-pleasing, rescuing, and over-committing keep us from living authentically. Rita outlines three steps—Radical Awareness, Permission to Dream, and Aligned Action—to help listeners break free from survival mode and reconnect with what truly lights them up. This episode is your reminder to slow down, get Selfish with your dreams, and take small, meaningful steps toward the life you deserve.

Notable Quotes:

"Growth and expansion aren’t just our birthright—it’s who we are. When we resist it, life becomes painful."

"The ego loves to keep us running in the same patterns. It will create distractions to keep you from slowing down and dreaming."

"Radical awareness means we stop pretending not to know what’s keeping us stuck. You can’t change what you don’t see."

"Dreaming for yourself isn’t selfish—it's necessary. When you give yourself permission to dream, you create space for your highest self to show up."

"Your word is your wand. When you keep your word to yourself, you build self-trust. The biggest betrayal isn’t from others—it’s betraying yourself."

In This Episode:

|09:29| – Action step: Take an inventory of your day—Where are you over-committing or blaming?

|19:08| – Permission to dream selfishly with a big S—Why it's essential for entrepreneurs.

|26:20| – Self-honoring choices: Saying no to draining commitments.

|28:45|– Wrap-up: Awareness, acceptance, and aligned action—Permission to dream again.

Resources:

3 Steps to Break Free from Codependent Patterns:

Step 1: Radical Awareness – Stop Pretending Not to Know
* Take inventory of your day: Are you over-helping, complaining, blaming, or feeling resentful? Write down one situation where you feel stuck, and ask yourself: Am I pretending not to know what’s really going on?

Step 2: Release the Need to Rescue or People-Please – Get Clear on What You Want
* Take a few minutes to journal: What do I want right now? Not what others need, not what you should do—what do you want? It’s okay if it feels selfish. Give yourself permission to dream.

Step 3: Take Aligned Action – Break the Cycle by Doing One Thing Differently
* Identify one small action that feels aligned with the life you want. It could be saying no, setting a boundary, or letting someone else handle things. Practice it today and notice how it feels.

Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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