Episodes

  • Episode 46 What do changes to the Family Procedure Rules mean for separating couples?
    Sep 19 2024

    In April 2024, changes were made to the Family Procedure Rules to encourage more people to use non-court-based methods to resolve financial issues arising from divorce or over their children.

    Matt & Liza discuss these changes and share their (sometimes very different) opinions on what they think about the changes, and what does it actually mean for separating couples?

    00:30 What are the Family Procedure Rules?
    01:01 What were the changes?
    01:31 What is non-court dispute resolution (NCDR)?
    03:30 What are the positives of the changes? And how will it work in practice?07:00 How are the family courts approaching it?
    08:25 What are the limitations?
    14:24 What about cases with domestic abuse or power imbalance?
    17:56 Is NCDR actually a cheaper alternative?
    21:23 Is the family court slowly being privatised?
    23:02 Will the changes actually make any difference?
    24:17 The role of case law from NA v LA [2024] EWFC 113 (24 May 2024) and its limitations
    27:11 The challenges of the changes
    28:35 How do the changes impact separating couples, and what do they need to do?

    Additional resources

    The role of the family court: https://bit.ly/480zrlh
    The dangers of a DIY divorce: https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
    Representing yourself in the family court (podcast): https://bit.ly/472zXhd
    How to represent yourself in the family court (video): https://youtu.be/1i4cD8bZYcM
    How to manage child hearings in the family court: https://youtu.be/gYg86a-A_l0
    How mediation can help you separate: https://bit.ly/3MdX4y4

    Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN or Beginner’s Guide to Divorce: https://bit.ly/beginnersdivorceguide


    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

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    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    33 mins
  • Episode 45 How to prepare to leave a narcissist - Part 2
    Sep 10 2024

    In the second part of this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, continues to share her advice and practical tools and techniques to help people prepare to leave a narcissist. (You can access the first part of this episode here.)

    We pick the conversation back up as Dr Supriyas shares her advice on preparing financially, before exploring how to stay safe online, saving previous communications, and keeping personal items safe. Before closing with her top tops. Again, Matt & Liza share their insight into how the law can help and the pitfalls to avoid.

    01:48 How to financially prepare for a narcissistic divorce
    03:00 The paperwork you need to gather
    04:45 A legal warning on how to access financial information
    11:50 How to protect joint assets and accounts
    15:50 Covering interim costs and bills
    17:58 How to protect yourself online
    28:49 Saving previous communications safely for evidence
    32:45 Keeping personal and sentimental items safe
    35:44 Checking and securing smart home devices
    37:35 Dr Supriya’s top tips for preparing to leave a narcissist

    If you are in immediate danger of domestic abuse, call the police on 999. You can also access help and support from the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 or the Mankind Initiative support helpline: 01823 334 244.

    Divorcing or separating from a narcissist: https://youtu.be/rCCfyHHKCfk
    Parenting alongside a narcissist https://youtu.be/b10mkX4Y3og
    Rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse: https://bit.ly/422YtMJ
    Are you in a relationship with a narcissist? https://t.ly/yEiw2

    You buy Dr Supriya’s books on narcissism on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/author/B08P9YBNYR

    Understanding and dealing with tech abuse https://bit.ly/3RQ6dzU
    Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN
    The encrypted email service mentioned in this podcast is Proton Mail: https://proton.me/mail

    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/

    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1

    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    40 mins
  • Episode 44 How to prepare to leave a narcissist - Part 1
    Sep 10 2024

    In the first of this two-parter episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, one of the leading experts in the field of narcissism, to discuss how to prepare to leave a narcissist.

    Dr Supriya shares her deep knowledge of narcissism, why it is harder to leave one, including hoovering and gaslighting, finding the right lawyer, and practical tips on the preparations needed to end your relationship. Meanwhile, Matt & Liza share legal insight, the options available to you and the pitfalls to avoid.

    00:00 Introductions
    02:34 Why is it harder to leave a relationship with a narcissist?
    04:44 Why gaslighting will increase post-separation
    05:33 Examples of how a narcissist behaviour plays out in divorce
    07:50 What is hoovering? And how does the narcissist use this?
    13:40 There is a hole in my sidewalk by Portia Nelson
    15:08 The prevalence of narcissistic abuse post divorce
    19:00 How to prepare to leave a narcissist
    19:30 Find the right therapy and therapist
    21:10 Don’t tell the narcissist, you know they are a narcissist
    24:01 How to find the right lawyer
    36:33 The importance of due diligence when selecting your lawyer

    You can listen to part 2 of this episode here.

    If you are in immediate danger of domestic abuse, call the police on 999. You can also access help and support from the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 or the Mankind Initiative support helpline: 01823 334 244.

    Divorcing or separating from a narcissist: https://youtu.be/rCCfyHHKCfk
    Parenting alongside a narcissist https://youtu.be/b10mkX4Y3og
    Rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse: https://bit.ly/422YtMJ
    Are you in a relationship with a narcissist? https://t.ly/yEiw2

    You buy Dr Supriya’s books on narcissism on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/author/B08P9YBNYR

    Understanding and dealing with tech abuse https://bit.ly/3RQ6dzU
    Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN
    The encrypted email service mentioned in this podcast is Proton Mail: https://proton.me/mail

    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/

    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1

    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    40 mins
  • Episode 43 How much does it cost to get divorced?
    Aug 29 2024

    In this bite size episode, hosts Matt & Liza turn their attention to another popular question that clients frequently ask: How much does it cost to get divorced?

    They talk through typical costs, the different ways to reduce costs, for example reaching agreement together or using mediation, and what you can do personally to save money during the process.

    All in just under 8 minutes.

    00:33 The cost of the divorce application
    01:15 How much does a typical financial settlement cost?
    02:05 What are the ways to keep costs down and save money?
    04:59 What can you do personally to keep costs down?

    Please note the prices quoted in this video were correct in August 2024 and are subject to change.

    Additional resources

    Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://bit.ly/3v0md9g
    The first things to do if you are getting divorced: https://spoti.fi/4bH3OxP
    How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://shorturl.at/bnpQT
    The dangers of a DIY divorce: https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
    How to get a financial consent order: https://youtu.be/-FlSjw4tTXM
    How to get divorced online: https://youtu.be/-LWs1MrGnT4
    Representing yourself in the family court: https://bit.ly/472zXhd

    Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN

    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/

    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1

    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    8 mins
  • Episode 42 How long does it take to get divorced?
    Aug 29 2024

    In this bite size episode, hosts Matt & Liza turn their attention to a popular question they hear from many of their clients: How long does it take to get divorced?

    They talk through the process, how long it takes, the impact of the family court, the myth of the quickie divorce, before closing on their top tips to help speed up the process as much as possible.

    All in just under 8 minutes.

    00:30 What is the process for getting divorced?
    02:20 How long does it take to get divorced?
    03:10 How does the family court impact timescales?
    04:24 Are there any ways to speed up the divorce process?
    05:15 Can you have a quickie divorce?
    06:20 What are the top tips to speed up your divorce?

    Additional resources

    Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://bit.ly/3v0md9g
    The first things to do if you are getting divorced: https://spoti.fi/4bH3OxP
    How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://shorturl.at/bnpQT
    The dangers of a DIY divorce: https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
    How to get a financial consent order: https://youtu.be/-FlSjw4tTXM
    How to get divorced online: https://youtu.be/-LWs1MrGnT4

    Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN

    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/

    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1

    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    8 mins
  • Episode 41: What happens if your ex won’t respond to a divorce?
    Aug 22 2024

    In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza explore what options are available for people if their ex-partner will not respond to the initial divorce application, refuses to disclose any information, or provides incorrect or misses details when trying to resolve finances.

    They dive into your legal options so you can progress your divorce, how to track down a missing ex, the role the family court can play, managing the emotional impact and anxiety, and top tips for dealing with your ex throughout the process.

    00:30 How common is it for someone not to respond to a divorce?
    01:10 The different ways people choose to avoid divorce
    02:20 What can you do if you do not know where your ex is or will not respond to the divorce?
    03:26 What is substituted service, and how can it help?
    04:50 What is deemed service?
    05:15 What is a dispense with service application? And its challenges
    05:50 What happens if someone will not disclose their financial information? (Form E)
    07:05 What can you do if people will not respond to financial disclosure?
    07:30 The role of questionnaires if information is incomplete
    08:03 What happens if they continue to ignore it? - The penal notice
    08:42 The case Young v Young 2015
    10:48 Can you make court orders without one person’s approval?
    11:35 The pitfalls of not responding to a divorce
    15:10 The role of inferences in the family court
    17:07 Top tips to dealing with an ex who will not respond to the divorce
    18:05 Focus on what you can control
    18:30 The importance of working with a divorce coach

    Additional resources

    Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN
    Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://bit.ly/3v0md9g
    The first things to do if you are getting divorced: https://spoti.fi/4bH3OxP
    How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://shorturl.at/bnpQT
    The dangers of a DIY divorce: https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
    How to get a financial consent order: https://youtu.be/-FlSjw4tTXM
    How to get divorced online: https://youtu.be/-LWs1MrGnT4

    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/

    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1

    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    19 mins
  • Episode 40: Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?
    Jul 26 2024

    Narcissism has become a popular buzzword. But despite the interest, there are many myths that undermine the complexity and destructive impact of this personality disorder.

    We were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, one of the leading experts in the field of narcissism, to discuss how you can tell if you are in a relationship with a ‘real’ narcissist, and why knowing this is so important, particularly if you want to leave them.

    00:00 Introductions
    02:25 Why is it important to know that you are in a relationship with a ‘real’ narcissist?
    03:05 Why are narcissist divorces so much tougher?
    04:50 How do you work out if you are in a relationship with a narcissist?
    05:30 Switching your thinking from the narcissist behaviour to the impact on you.
    07:30 A checklist for whether you are in a relationship with a narcissist
    17:54 What are the effects of being in a narcissistic relationship?
    20:12 The narcissist behaving as a toddler
    21:27 What is gaslighting, and how do you know if it is happening to you?
    24:40 The terrifying drop of the narcissist mask
    27:01 What do you need to consider when deciding if you should leave a narcissist?
    27:30 What is the impact on your children?
    34:05 How you and your lawyer should handle the legal side
    43:11 The trauma of the family court
    43:44 The use of open offers v without prejudice offers when divorcing a narcissist
    50:30 What can people do next? Further resources to help.

    Tune in for an episode that balances a deep insight into narcissism and the legal options available to you.

    If you are in immediate danger from domestic abuse, call the police on 999. You can also access help and support from the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 or the Mankind Initiative support helpline: 01823 334 244.

    Additional resources

    You can catch up on Supriya’s previous podcasts below.

    Divorcing or separating from a narcissist: https://youtu.be/rCCfyHHKCfk
    Parenting alongside a narcissist https://youtu.be/b10mkX4Y3og
    Rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse: https://bit.ly/422YtMJ

    You buy Dr Supriya’s books on narcissism on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/author/B08P9YBNYR

    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/

    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1

    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    54 mins
  • Episode 39: The realities of high-net-worth divorce
    Jul 23 2024

    High-net-worth divorce brings its own unique challenges, especially around understanding, valuing and dividing complex earning structures, assets and pensions, often with international elements.

    In this episode, Ceri Griffiths a chartered financial planner specialising in supporting women divorcing high earners shares her advice on how to navigate the unique issues that high-net-worth divorce can bring.

    01:43 What is a high net worth divorce?
    03:40 Common power imbalances in high-net-worth marriages
    05:00 The lack of knowledge and understanding around finances
    05:40 The prevalence of narcissism in CEOs and challenges
    08:55 What is the sharing principle in divorce?
    10:00 The legal bit on needs v sharing in divorce
    14:04 The importance of due diligence
    15:30 Understanding complex earning structures
    21:19 Challenges of Private Equity and Hedge Managers remuneration
    23:48 The division of assets and Wells sharing
    27:14 Understanding what you need for the future and life post-divorce
    28:50 What is cashflow forecasting, and how does it help?
    31:18 Looking beyond the 50/50 percentages
    32:10 Specific challenges of high-net-worth divorce
    33:14 Breaking the gold digger myth
    34:00 Getting a final outcome you can live with
    36:35 Ceri’s top tips for people going through a high-net-worth divorce

    Additional resources

    Taking control of your finances on separation: https://youtu.be/CIp6n4pgd9k
    Understanding pensions on divorce: https://bit.ly/41ryik4
    Divorcing or separating from a narcissist: https://youtu.be/rCCfyHHKCfk
    Recognising and dealing with economic abuse: https://spoti.fi/3VndusS
    How to prepare for your financial settlement: https://shorturl.at/bnpQT

    If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

    Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

    🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support.

    🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/

    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1

    This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

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    38 mins