back from the borderline

By: mollie adler
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  • I don’t want to talk to your personality; I want to talk to your soul. Imagine if your most painful and debilitating mental health symptoms and self-sabotaging behaviors aren’t evidence of disorder or dysfunction, but adaptive strategies that once kept you safe. My goal is to help you shift from asking ‘What’s wrong with me?’ to ‘What happened to me?’


    Many highly sensitive people who identify with the seemingly never-ending list of diagnostic mental health labels contained within the DSM share the same underlying sense of being irreparably broken, disconnected from their intuition, and overwhelmed by life’s existential questions. I believe the resulting—and perfectly understandable—chronic feelings of emptiness and spiritual starvation are the TRUE causes of our current collective ‘mental health crisis.’ Together, we’ll dive into depth psychology, mythology, human consciousness, critical psychiatry, and the impact of trauma to help you begin the process of emotional alchemy. This exploration will help you get to the root cause of your suffering and free yourself from the toxic shame, limiting beliefs, and mental programming that have kept you locked in the chains of your past.


    In an era where mental health and spirituality are too often commercialized, I’m not here as a guru with a quick fix to sell you. I don’t believe anyone is ever truly ‘healed’ or ‘cured.’ There is no return to some mythical state of pre-trauma purity, but rather a continuous spiral of unbecoming, unlearning, and transformation. As a fellow seeker, I will be there in your ear, walking alongside you on your path toward wholeness as a sort of parasocial big sister. That, I CAN promise. By integrating the concepts we explore together, you’ll begin to see that anyone—even you—can come back from the borderline.


    Overwhelmed about where to start? Visit backfromtheborderline.com today to access my introductory episode and dive straight into my most transformational series.

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    This conversation is about breaking down the pressures and expectations that cloud our perceptions of intimacy and can sabotage perfectly healthy relationships. I'm here to empower you to communicate openly with your partner and redefine intimacy in ways that resonate with both your needs and desires, free from societal myths that falsely equate constant physical intimacy with relationship quality. By exploring different types of desire, you'll learn how to foster a connection that’s based not on frequency but on mutual satisfaction and deeper emotional bonds. Let’s throw those random stats and the so-called 'rules' about relationships in the trash where they belong. Settle in and get ready to redefine intimacy on your own terms.


    ✧ Click here to follow Shan Boodram on Instagram (@shanboodram) [source for the reel at the beginning of this episode]


    TIME STAMPS:

    00:00 – 40:37.45: Part 1 (Exploring societal pressures, media influences, empirical studies, medicalization of desire, and generational differences affecting perceptions of intimacy and sexual health.)

    40:37.45 – 01:14:07.42: Part 2 (Delving into types of sexual desire, the reality of long-term intimacy, and the importance of aligning values and libido levels in relationships.)


    Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.


    The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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  • unlock higher states of consciousness by understanding the different levels of thinking (exploring ken wilber’s AQUAL integral theory)

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    REFERENCES:

    ✧ Click here to view Ken Wilber's AQAL Integral Theory Map

    ✧ Learn more about integral theory and the work of Ken Wilber at https://integrallife.com/


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    The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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    1 hr and 44 mins
  • anatomy of evil: the salem witch trials (puritan paranoia, mass hysteria, and social scapegoating) [preview]

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    Oct 3 2024

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    I start with a gritty look at Puritan New England, where strict religious codes met the harsh realities of colonial life. Picture a community perched on the edge of the unknown, wrestling with internal terror and the daily pressures of survival in a stark, unforgiving landscape. I explore how these conditions fermented a potent brew of suspicion and scapegoating, where women, especially those who dared to defy norms, were marked as society's malevolent outcasts. From there, we get personal with Bridget Bishop, the flamboyant tavern owner whose boldness made her a target, and Cotton Mather, the minister whose fear of devilry drove him to fanaticism. Their stories are chilling reflections of how societal pressures can twist faith and fear into a deadly weapon.

    The stakes rise in the second half of the episode, where I dissect the mechanics of the witch trials—how spectral evidence and touch tests weren't just quirks of pseudo-science, but death sentences waiting to happen. We'll walk through the chaos of the trials, feeling the palpable fear that gripped Salem, leading to a breakdown of community ties and a long shadow of mistrust. But the resonance of Salem doesn't stop in the past. I draw bold lines connecting the paranoia of the witch trials to modern-day frenzies like the Red Scare and today's cancel culture wars. How does a tweet from a decade ago become the spectral evidence of our time? We're diving deep into the psychology of social media mobs and the dangers of moral purity tests that leave no room for mercy or growth.

    By the end of this journey, you'll see the Salem Witch Trials not just as a chapter in a history book, but as a mirror reflecting our ongoing struggles with fear, control, and the othering of those who dare to be different. Are we repeating history by engaging in new witch hunts under the guise of justice? Join me in this latest edition of 'Anatomy of Evil' as we delve into the shadows of human nature, transcending labels to uncover the deep currents that push us to the brink.


    TIME STAMPS:

    ✧ 00:00 – 47:56.08 – Part 1: Foundations of Fear (Exploring the origins and setting of the Salem Witch Trials, from historical context to key figures like Bridget Bishop and Cotton Mather.)

    ✧ 47:56.08 – End – Part 2: Hysteria and Legacy (Diving into the mechanisms of mass hysteria, the trials' impact on the community, and their enduring lessons on social justice and human rights.)


    Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.


    The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

    acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline.


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    49 mins

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I waited weeks before deciding to write a review, and even then I decided to be kind and give some constructive feedback on the instagram page instead of hurting the brand. It didn’t work. The problem is it became abundantly clear she just wants to talk, just her. She brings on a multitude of experts in the field yet doesn’t give them the time to say anything and cuts them of most of the time. It’s abundantly clear as time goes by that this is a way to get free therapy for her and if you want to hear a snippet of advise from an expert you will have to compromise and listen to the exact same repeated story of her life beforehand. As a fellow BPD’er I thought long and hard about how to broach the subject as I know how everything can feel like an attack when challenged. My feedback was fair, not attacking in any way and really constructive as it was truly for the benefit of potentially bettering the podcast for the future. I know there are more of us with the view having discussed it with my partner and a friend I had referred it on to so I really just wanted to keep listening. I was met with extreme defensive measures, being gaslit by giving me figures to try to disprove my claims and even going as far as to give anecdotes on the extremely positive things people had said in response to the episodes to try and invalidate or minimalize my view. This is nothing less than narcissistic behaviour. I kept my cool and remained nice, however the conversation was deleted as was I from her page. This is not the way to treat people, fans no less. People want to see you succeed yet your attacks keep them from trying to help. This will likely come as no surprise to the people around you, you just need to start seeing it yourself. You’re clearly bright, but can’t quite seem to put your awareness into actions. And you’re right, there are more podcasts out there, thanks for the tip.

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great podcast on the topic of a complex issue

I've listened to this for years and have had some really useful information imparted on me. i like the host and find it has validated a lot of experiences ive gone through.

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